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imanamerican63

(15,044 posts)
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:04 PM 21 hrs ago

With great regret & sadness.

My mother passed away a little over an hour ago. She is at peace and now is with our father, her parents and her siblings.

She was my rock and I was her’s. A love for everyone of her 9 children no matter what, who or why? She was there without any questions asked. But she was my “go to” political talk.

Peace to all and thank you for support and kindness. It’s deeply appreciated.

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With great regret & sadness. (Original Post) imanamerican63 21 hrs ago OP
So sorry for your loss. greatauntoftriplets 21 hrs ago #1
Condolences... Drum 21 hrs ago #2
I am deeply sorry for your terrible loss. LiberalLoner 21 hrs ago #3
Much love and condolences to you and your family. Basso8vb 21 hrs ago #4
Sending a hug. hamsterjill 21 hrs ago #5
So sorry senseandsensibility 21 hrs ago #6
My sympathy to you and the family and also to livetohike 21 hrs ago #7
I'm sorry. A really hard loss. redwitch 20 hrs ago #8
Please accept my deepest sympathy for you and your loved ones. Diamond_Dog 20 hrs ago #9
So sorry for your loss. OLDMDDEM 20 hrs ago #10
Deepest condolences greatlaurel 20 hrs ago #11
🕯️ alittlelark 20 hrs ago #12
My sincere condolences 💐 Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #13
Very sorry for your loss. Now she is at peace. 🙏🙏🙏💙 TommieMommy 20 hrs ago #14
Peace and comfort to you and your family. Wingus Dingus 20 hrs ago #15
Sorry for your loss Bettie 20 hrs ago #16
I'm sorry for your loss. Space Lemon 20 hrs ago #17
I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63 Mike 03 20 hrs ago #18
Holding you and your family in my heart for consolation and strength. So hard to lose Mom! n/t TygrBright 20 hrs ago #19
I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote 20 hrs ago #20
It's so hard to lose a parent. crazylikafox 20 hrs ago #21
The woman you describe JMCKUSICK 20 hrs ago #22
Oh wow!!! MarineCombatEngineer 20 hrs ago #23
My condolences to you and your family on your loss kimbutgar 20 hrs ago #24
I'm so sorry for your loss Danmel 20 hrs ago #25
May her memory be a blessing... ultralite001 20 hrs ago #26
❤️ underpants 20 hrs ago #27
I am so sorry for your loss irisblue 20 hrs ago #28
Sending you love and peace. PittBlue 20 hrs ago #29
Condolences Orrin_73 20 hrs ago #30
I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly 20 hrs ago #31
My condolences Libby2 20 hrs ago #32
Sending peaceful vibes Alice Kramden 20 hrs ago #33
I'm so sorry. Holding you and your family in my heart. woodsprite 20 hrs ago #34
I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man hlthe2b 20 hrs ago #35
So sorry IbogaProject 20 hrs ago #36
Sorry for your loss. bluesbassman 20 hrs ago #37
Requiescat in pace, dear lady. Holding you and yours in love and light. niyad 20 hrs ago #38
My condolences to you and your entire family relayerbob 20 hrs ago #39
Sorry... spanone 20 hrs ago #40
I'm so sorry. Is there anything we can do to help you? Nevilledog 20 hrs ago #41
Best wishes. Paladin 20 hrs ago #42
Condolences to you and your family on your loss. 🫂 mwmisses4289 20 hrs ago #43
So sorry for you loss. JohnSJ 20 hrs ago #44
So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing. littlemissmartypants 20 hrs ago #45
Peace and comfort ornotna 20 hrs ago #46
I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein 20 hrs ago #47
Hugs malaise 20 hrs ago #48
It sounds like she was a wonderful mother and friend PatSeg 20 hrs ago #49
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time. dai13sy 20 hrs ago #50
Peace. Magoo48 20 hrs ago #51
very sorry to hear. My condolences rurallib 20 hrs ago #52
So sorry for your loss, and best wishes as you and your family mourn your mother Lonestarblue 20 hrs ago #53
So sorry for your loss. boonecreek 20 hrs ago #54
We're all here for you. WinstonSmith4740 20 hrs ago #55
Your Mom Clouds Passing 20 hrs ago #56
Deepest condolences to you and your family SheltieLover 20 hrs ago #57
You are a wonderful and caring child bedazzled 20 hrs ago #58
I'm so sorry IndyPepper 19 hrs ago #59
You are in my thoughts Grim Chieftain 19 hrs ago #60
condolences and symapthy Richard D 19 hrs ago #61
💐🕯️ blm 19 hrs ago #62
May her memory always be for a blessing. PCIntern 19 hrs ago #63
My sincere condolences. Grumpy Old Guy 19 hrs ago #64
So sorry. Strength to you. Peace to her. 🕯 electric_blue68 19 hrs ago #65
Peace and condolences. Dulcinea 19 hrs ago #66
So sad... lamp_shade 19 hrs ago #67
I am so sorry for your loss. CousinIT 19 hrs ago #68
So sorry for your loss..🙏🏽 nt helpisontheway 19 hrs ago #69
May her passing be gentle and WhiteTara 19 hrs ago #70
"" AllaN01Bear 19 hrs ago #71
A professor's kind and very true words... Onlyserious 19 hrs ago #72
I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way GreenEyedLefty 19 hrs ago #73
She lives on in you now. Botany 19 hrs ago #74
Hail the Traveler! Deep State Witch 19 hrs ago #75
I'm so sorry for your loss sdfernando 19 hrs ago #76
👇 Beachnutt 19 hrs ago #77
Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family! FirstLight 19 hrs ago #78
Hugs to you and your family mercuryblues 19 hrs ago #79
I'm so sorry for your loss cate94 19 hrs ago #80
Deepest sympathy orangecrush 19 hrs ago #81
Your mom was fortunate to have such love around her. Am sure allegorical oracle 19 hrs ago #82
So sorry 70sEraVet 19 hrs ago #83
Hugs hugs hugs Chicagogrl1 18 hrs ago #84
sending you aloha mahina 18 hrs ago #85
I'm so sorry. You are in my heart. Scrivener7 18 hrs ago #86
So sorry for the loss of your? Mom. 🫂🙏 SimplyHadEnough 18 hrs ago #87
She's at rest now Figarosmom 18 hrs ago #88
Peace to you lonely bird 18 hrs ago #89
My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear Mother. virgdem 18 hrs ago #90
I'm so very sorry. benfranklin1776 18 hrs ago #91
My heart goes out to you. pandr32 18 hrs ago #92
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom, imanamerican63 yonder 18 hrs ago #93
Love and condolences to you MustLoveBeagles 18 hrs ago #94
I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to LoisB 18 hrs ago #95
You have my condolences. Person of Interest 18 hrs ago #96
Sorry blueseas 17 hrs ago #97
Love is all there is Richluu 17 hrs ago #98
My sympathy for your loss KT2000 17 hrs ago #99
I am so sorry for your loss. NCgayguy 17 hrs ago #100
My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother Kaleva 17 hrs ago #101
Really sorry to hear that. You have my sympathy. Blues Heron 17 hrs ago #102
My condolences to you, your family and friends. RIP Mom. vishnura 17 hrs ago #103
Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join. The_REAL_Ecumenist 17 hrs ago #104
I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go Warpy 17 hrs ago #105
RIP Passages 17 hrs ago #106
So sorry for your loss. c-rational 17 hrs ago #107
So very sorry. bluestarone 17 hrs ago #108
I wish you comfort and peace. blogslug 17 hrs ago #109
Heartfelt, condolences to you and your family. Jit423 17 hrs ago #110
So sorry for your loss blue_jay 16 hrs ago #111
My sympathy to you bdamomma 16 hrs ago #112
Sounds like she was a terrific Mom. I'm sorry for your loss. chowder66 16 hrs ago #113
My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope 16 hrs ago #114
imanamerican63 dlilafae 16 hrs ago #115
Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63 ReRe 16 hrs ago #116
My condolences on your devastating loss, imanamerican63 Niagara 16 hrs ago #117
I'm so very sorry for your loss. LuckyCharms 15 hrs ago #118
Condolences to you and your family. Tess49 15 hrs ago #119
So sorry for your loss.... Dem4life1970 15 hrs ago #120
I am very sorry for your loss of your mom Meowmee 14 hrs ago #121
May your mother Rest in Peace and May her Memory be a Blessing. 🙏. n/t iluvtennis 14 hrs ago #122
I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and highplainsdem 14 hrs ago #123
I'm very sorry for your loss BlueSpot 13 hrs ago #124
so sorry; hard to take; hugs... peacebuzzard 13 hrs ago #125
So sorry for your loss. stillcool 13 hrs ago #126
😢🙏 claudette 13 hrs ago #127
Sorry for your loss. Wish you well in this tough time. n/t marked50 12 hrs ago #128
Condolences, imanamerican63 gademocrat7 12 hrs ago #129
Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and KitFox 11 hrs ago #130
I'm sorry for your loss. area51 10 hrs ago #131
... ailsagirl 10 hrs ago #132
I offer my condolences. diehardblue 9 hrs ago #133
My condolences to you and your family bdjhawk 9 hrs ago #134
She's at peace now. democrank 6 hrs ago #135
Im so sorry for your loss... samnsara 4 hrs ago #136
. Rocknation 2 hrs ago #137
Very sorry for your loss. PennRalphie 2 hrs ago #138
Your mother will always be part of your life. raging moderate 59 min ago #139

Basso8vb

(945 posts)
4. Much love and condolences to you and your family.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:07 PM
21 hrs ago

Sounds like your mom was a wonderful person.

hamsterjill

(15,811 posts)
5. Sending a hug.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:08 PM
21 hrs ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. May your family and friends take care of one another during this time. Remember to breathe, and remember the good times.

senseandsensibility

(22,030 posts)
6. So sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:08 PM
21 hrs ago

Last edited Wed May 14, 2025, 02:54 PM - Edit history (1)

I know from experience that it doesn't matter if a loss is expected or sudden. The finality of it is like a sledgehammer. I hope you find peace and may her memory be a blessing.

livetohike

(23,411 posts)
7. My sympathy to you and the family and also to
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:09 PM
21 hrs ago

all who knew and loved your mom. May every good memory comfort you and always make you smile .

greatlaurel

(2,013 posts)
11. Deepest condolences
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:13 PM
20 hrs ago

So very sorry for your loss. Please take extra good care of yourself to get through this difficult time.

She was a special person to have raised you so very well.

Mike 03

(18,449 posts)
18. I'm so very sorry, iamanamerican63
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:25 PM
20 hrs ago

No words could address the sadness and grief you are feeling.

It's very important you treat yourself extra well for a while. Be kind to yourself.

Again, I'm so sad to read this and so sorry you are going through this.

TygrBright

(21,137 posts)
19. Holding you and your family in my heart for consolation and strength. So hard to lose Mom! n/t
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:26 PM
20 hrs ago

JMCKUSICK

(2,255 posts)
22. The woman you describe
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:33 PM
20 hrs ago

Is an absolute Angel and that you have so much to celebrate and remember, is such a gift to carry forward and honor.
May your mother's memory be your conscience and guide imanamerican63.
Love, John

kimbutgar

(25,046 posts)
24. My condolences to you and your family on your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:34 PM
20 hrs ago

But Mom will still always be with you in your heart and spirit.

Danmel

(5,419 posts)
25. I'm so sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:34 PM
20 hrs ago

May sweet memories of your beloved mom bring you comfort and peace.

ultralite001

(1,640 posts)
26. May her memory be a blessing...
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:36 PM
20 hrs ago

to you in good times + those other times...

Holding you in our 🧡💛💙...

MIButterfly

(367 posts)
31. I am so sorry for your loss.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:39 PM
20 hrs ago

I send you and your loved ones my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I hope loving memories of your mother will eventually provide some measure of comfort in your grief.

Much love to you and yours. ❤️

hlthe2b

(109,659 posts)
35. I'm very sorry. While it has been many years since I lost both of my parents, I remember the words of a wise man
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:42 PM
20 hrs ago

who told me that two things happen when you lose your parents (or those close to you):

First, no matter how old you are, how independent, how good or bad your relationship with your parents, there is no feeling more jarring than to think you are now an "orphan" for all intents and purposes...

and
Second, there is a numbness that descends and lasts for months or even years, which helps you get through it. And that numbness allows you to remember the good times without being paralyzed by the sadness.


Those both held for me. I hope the second, especially, holds for you and sustains you.

Paladin

(30,345 posts)
42. Best wishes.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:47 PM
20 hrs ago

Sounds like your mother left you with some good memories---I know from personal experience how valuable such memories are, in difficult circumstances.

littlemissmartypants

(27,647 posts)
45. So sorry imanamerican63. Nothing prepares us. Nothing.
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:49 PM
20 hrs ago

I'm sending comfort and love. I hope it helps.

Stay encouraged.



❤️

PatSeg

(50,173 posts)
49. It sounds like she was a wonderful mother and friend
Wed May 14, 2025, 02:58 PM
20 hrs ago

In that sense you are truly blessed.

dai13sy

(555 posts)
50. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. Those feelings and memories become sweeter with time.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:00 PM
20 hrs ago

She'll always be part of your heart and your brain so be sure to talk with her to check on her and let her know how you are doing. She wants to know. She loves you

WinstonSmith4740

(3,297 posts)
55. We're all here for you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:03 PM
20 hrs ago

So sorry to hear, but as you said, she is at peace with those that preceeded her on that journey. Please remember to take care of yourself...it's easy to forget to do that at times like this.

Clouds Passing

(4,706 posts)
56. Your Mom
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:04 PM
20 hrs ago


Please know how fortunate you are to have a wonderful mother and a strong relationship with her. She is still with you, she will always be supporting, guiding and loving you.

SheltieLover

(67,869 posts)
57. Deepest condolences to you and your family
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:07 PM
20 hrs ago

I hope and trust she had a peaceful crossing.

Continuing to send healing vibes to you and your family.

Please consider grief counseling through the hospice as they are specially trained to help you pick up the pieces.



bedazzled

(1,866 posts)
58. You are a wonderful and caring child
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:08 PM
20 hrs ago

You did your best for her, and I am sure she appreciated it!

She will be with you always now. Take time to heal yourself and you will feel her...

Sincere condolences

IndyPepper

(44 posts)
59. I'm so sorry
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:15 PM
19 hrs ago

It's always difficult losing a parent, no matter their age. I lost my mother when I was 29 and she was just 53. My father made it to 86, but it was still a very sad day when we had to say goodbye. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this difficult time.

Onlyserious

(106 posts)
72. A professor's kind and very true words...
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:43 PM
19 hrs ago

I lost my Dad when I was in graduate school and when I was making arrangements a professor I admired said how sorry he was and then..."You never get over it...but you do get used to it." True in my case.

GreenEyedLefty

(2,109 posts)
73. I'm so sorry, sending lots of hugs your way
Wed May 14, 2025, 03:48 PM
19 hrs ago

I was devastated when my mom passed away; she was my best friend and confidante. I hoped to have even a few more years with her, but alas, it was not meant to be.

Beachnutt

(8,705 posts)
77. 👇
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:03 PM
19 hrs ago


You are standing upon the seashore.
A ship at your side spreads her white
sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean.
She is an object of beauty and strength.
You stand and watch her until at length
she hangs like a speck of white cloud fading from sight
just where the sea and sky come together.

Then, someone at your side says;
"There, she is gone!"

"Gone where?"
Gone from your sight. That is all.
She is just as large in mast and hull
and spar as she was when she left your side
and she is just as able to bear her
load of living freight to her destined port.
Her diminished size is in you not in her.

And just at the moment when someone
at your side says, "There, she is gone!"
There are other eyes watching her coming on the other shore
and other voices ready to take up the glad shout;
"Here she comes!"

FirstLight

(15,073 posts)
78. Huge hugs for you... May she have a great reunion with her family!
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:04 PM
19 hrs ago

My mom passed in 2022, and Dad followed in 2023 (almost the same day, 12 hours difference)

My sister and I used to say what a hell of a party they were having on the other side! They were the last ones alive out of all their friends and family, so I am sure it was a great time!

Hope the thought of a blessed and joyful homecoming help ease your pain. I miss my momma ALL the damn time... :hugs:

Figarosmom

(5,580 posts)
88. She's at rest now
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:37 PM
18 hrs ago

You'll never be without her in your life. Since losing my Mom I notice so many things she left behind to remain in our lives. Recipes, ways of doing things like gardening and sewing. All thise little things we take for granted for our day to day survival you will suddenly see her in them.

benfranklin1776

(6,839 posts)
91. I'm so very sorry.
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:41 PM
18 hrs ago


Her magnificent spirit and wisdom lives on through you. Wishing you comfort and solace in this your time of great sorrow

pandr32

(12,960 posts)
92. My heart goes out to you.
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:41 PM
18 hrs ago

It is a difficult adjustment to life going forward when you lose such close, primary loves.

LoisB

(10,375 posts)
95. I am so sorry. She belongs to The Universe now so she is at peace. Strength and peace to
Wed May 14, 2025, 04:56 PM
18 hrs ago

you, the rest of her family and friends for the journey ahead.

Kaleva

(39,316 posts)
101. My deepest sympathies to you, your siblings and everyone else whose lives were touched by your mother
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:21 PM
17 hrs ago

The_REAL_Ecumenist

(912 posts)
104. Oh Baby, I am SO sorry to read this. My heart breaks that you've now joined a club that noone wants to ever join.
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:39 PM
17 hrs ago

Please accept my deep and sincere sympathy & a virtual hug. May the sadness you feel now soon turn into sweet instances of remembrance when recalling the things you shared with her. She's okay now, out of a body that no longer worked the way it was supposed to and , (in my cultural belief), she's been reunited with all her loved ones who went on before her. Safe and wonderful journey home, Mama ImAnAmerican63.
I KNOW that we do go on because on August 7 1998 @ approx. 4:30am, I died from a perforated duodenal ulcer I didn't know I had. I was clinically dead for 45 minutes, (no heartbeat full respiratory failure) & the things I saw, beyond beautiful. TRUST ME, you'll see her again & the love she has for you will never change.

You have a family of sorts here on DU who are surrounding you with love, sending healing thoughts & comfort. Please don't hesitate to reach out to anyone of this wonderful community if you need to talk. I don't presume to know what you believe in but I hope you don't mind my telling you that my family will be saying prayers for you-for strength, for healing & for the return of your Sunshine.

Bless you, the family & all the people that will miss her as she flew away...

Warpy

(113,366 posts)
105. I'm sorry, Mom's especiallly hard when it's time for her to go
Wed May 14, 2025, 05:49 PM
17 hrs ago

We want them to llive forever, but if we're honest, we don't want them to live like that, bodies wearing out due to age.

My mother was also politically astute. When Nixon announced his run in 1968, my mother said "He's going to be impeached if he gets in." He would have been, had he not grabbed his pension and resigned. She spotted Reagan's dementia in 1982. I would love to know her opiinion of this bunch, I would imagine it would be pithy, accurate, and profane, but there is no way I'd have forced her to live to 116 in order to give it.

Just know that the shock will wear off quickly, the waves of grief will eventually fad,e and the memories of who she was will crowd out the ones of her last days. It will get better. It will just take some time.

ReRe

(11,627 posts)
116. Deepest Condolences to you and your family, 63
Wed May 14, 2025, 06:58 PM
16 hrs ago

Burning a candle for dear Mother. And for you, dear DU friend.

highplainsdem

(55,915 posts)
123. I'm so sorry. My condolences to you and your family. Your mother was - still is - a treasure, and
Wed May 14, 2025, 08:50 PM
14 hrs ago

she'll be watching over you. You may have what seem like signs reassuring you of that, and of her continuing love. Trust them.

BlueSpot

(1,056 posts)
124. I'm very sorry for your loss
Wed May 14, 2025, 09:25 PM
13 hrs ago

There will be a lot to process. If you're on good terms with your siblings, that will help. It'll still be hard, so be kind to yourself and give yourself some slack (I don't really know if that's universal but it was something I had to learn to do when I was in a similar situation).

KitFox

(300 posts)
130. Oh, imanamerican63, I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your treasured mother. I just saw this and
Thu May 15, 2025, 12:07 AM
11 hrs ago

when I found your previous posts, I see that she was in Hospice care surrounded by you and your family. I hope it will bring you some comfort to always know you were right there with her helping her pass. Love, peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through the next part of your journey. 🩷🩷

raging moderate

(4,571 posts)
139. Your mother will always be part of your life.
Thu May 15, 2025, 10:09 AM
59 min ago

My mother died many years ago. One day, while I was fixing a quick lunch for myself, a memory of her smile drifted into my mind. Silently, I wondered what she might be experiencing these days. Suddenly, I heard her voice in my mind: "Well, right now, I am fixing a peanut butter sandwich for my daughter." I looked down at my hands working on my sandwich, and suddenly realized that I had watched my mother's hands doing that, many times. And my mother taught me to do so many of the things I do every day, so she really is still with me. And your memories of your mother will comfort you, more and more!

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