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Botany

(76,896 posts)
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:34 PM Thursday

ATTN when did you know you were not like other people

Or am I the only one?

Just asking.

Earl G. has already promised dinner and drinks for anybody who wants them and responds
to this post.



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ATTN when did you know you were not like other people (Original Post) Botany Thursday OP
When I started my own company and designed and manufactured... S/V Loner Thursday #1
You are not a dummy because you write in complete sentences, you started your own biz based on .. Botany Thursday #3
I guess that's true... S/V Loner Thursday #11
In first grade. I kind of dropped out of kindergarten. Walleye Thursday #2
What sadistic prison cafeteria mope stopdiggin Thursday #4
For many years, I have believed I must have been born on the wrong planet. planetc Thursday #5
" Are we having wine with it?" Botany Thursday #6
Semi-dry, if you've got it. But I'll drink anything that's not still hanging on a vine. planetc Thursday #9
About as soon as I became conscious n/t Emrys Thursday #7
In kindergarten, when I couldn't understand English Wicked Blue Thursday #8
My daughter had the same reaction when she first attended an American school DFW Thursday #31
LOL Wicked Blue Thursday #40
When I recoiled at peas touching potatoes on my dinner plate Zambero Thursday #10
When I was about three. 2naSalit Thursday #12
...I may have been only three, yellow dahlia Thursday #15
Ha! 2naSalit Thursday #16
Is it possible that when you're a genius, yellow dahlia Thursday #18
Perhaps... 2naSalit Thursday #21
Audition? It's not an easy song to sing. yellow dahlia Thursday #25
Same here... 2naSalit Thursday #27
Jazz ensemble - awesome. yellow dahlia Thursday #28
It was a fun... 2naSalit Thursday #38
When my Dad stood at the top of the stairs and yelled "Why can't you just be normal?" EverHopeful Thursday #13
I didn't have an answer until I was an adult chowmama Thursday #41
What a fascinating question. yellow dahlia Thursday #14
Must've been around elementary or middle school sakabatou Thursday #17
When I realized I was beautiful and talented and smart, that's when! CTyankee Thursday #19
I can't remember ever feeling ... surrealAmerican Thursday #20
That's me, too RandomNumbers Thursday #34
Remembering the first book, that my mama read to me when I was a small child, "The 300 Spartans." Uncle Joe Thursday #22
Is that mac n' cheese? Bayard Thursday #23
I understand EverHopeful Friday #43
When I asked "Where are all of the black kids" on my 2nd day at my new private Catholic high school. chowder66 Thursday #24
When l knew eating meat was wrong and l wouldn't do it Raine Thursday #26
In elementary school. I could make perfect cursive writing of my initials, according to 3rd grade teacher... wcmagumba Thursday #29
In kindergarten mercuryblues Thursday #30
When the Sunday School teacher looked at me funny for asking an inconvenient question. ariadne0614 Thursday #32
Creeping hints during my teenage years DFW Thursday #33
Earliest memories MW67 Thursday #35
I'm a dime a dozen. Solly Mack Thursday #36
About second grade. markodochartaigh Thursday #37
age 5 I think 0rganism Thursday #39
Day one, or shortly thereafter chowmama Thursday #42
I see I was lucky at my school EverHopeful Friday #44

S/V Loner

(9,513 posts)
1. When I started my own company and designed and manufactured...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:40 PM
Thursday

equipment for the submarine service. I also got a patent. Prior to that I had always assumed I was a dummy and not going anywhere but I was challenged and that was all it took. Now retired.

Botany

(76,896 posts)
3. You are not a dummy because you write in complete sentences, you started your own biz based on ..
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:44 PM
Thursday

.. what you thought, and you are still alive.

stopdiggin

(15,274 posts)
4. What sadistic prison cafeteria mope
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:48 PM
Thursday

crammed all of that (marginally edible in the first place) food stuffs into a single pile of - indigestible goo ?

planetc

(8,897 posts)
5. For many years, I have believed I must have been born on the wrong planet.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:48 PM
Thursday

Is this what you mean? I absolutely agree with the majority of other people when it comes to important matters like Beatles' admiration. But on other subjects, I'm off in left field. As to when I began to suspect it, it was early in my school life. Perhaps third grade? I seem to have put more words down on some kind of test they were giving everybody. And then I thought I saw a teacher eyeing me suspiciously. Perhaps I just developed paranoia early?

Also, that looks like a pleasant dinner. Are we having wine with it?

planetc

(8,897 posts)
9. Semi-dry, if you've got it. But I'll drink anything that's not still hanging on a vine.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 05:01 PM
Thursday

Wicked Blue

(8,793 posts)
8. In kindergarten, when I couldn't understand English
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 04:59 PM
Thursday

and couldn't figure out why everyone had to stand up, put their right hand on their chest, face a colored piece of cloth, and chant some kind of words at it.

DFW

(59,953 posts)
31. My daughter had the same reaction when she first attended an American school
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:12 PM
Thursday

Her English was fine, but I had forgotten that they did that in American schools, and she had never heard the words “pledge” or “allegiance” before. So after a few days, when she realized this was some kind of daily ritual, she asked me what the ritual chanting was all about. I had no idea what she meant at first, and asked what they chanted. She said it started out with “I spread the peaches” and continued with some unintelligible mumbling. I was lost at first until she said they all put their hands on their chests. Then I got it and explained it. Having grown up in Germany, where extremist patriotism was (for obvious reasons) discouraged, she couldn’t understand why American kids needed to be reminded on a daily basis what country they came from.

Zambero

(9,950 posts)
10. When I recoiled at peas touching potatoes on my dinner plate
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 05:03 PM
Thursday

Separation anxiety, kicking in whenever the peas started rolling toward the spuds, and were therefore no longer separate from them!

2naSalit

(101,530 posts)
12. When I was about three.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 05:28 PM
Thursday

I still have to have things separated on the plate, I'll mix them up myself after the butter melts, thank you very much.

2naSalit

(101,530 posts)
21. Perhaps...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:10 PM
Thursday

But you'd have to recognize normal to know you're not like that.



Now I have an earworm of that song. I knew it really well once upon a time, I even used it in an audition a long time ago.

yellow dahlia

(5,391 posts)
25. Audition? It's not an easy song to sing.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:44 PM
Thursday

I've been ear worming "my analyst told me, I was right out of my head"...since we got on the topic.

2naSalit

(101,530 posts)
27. Same here...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:55 PM
Thursday

Audition was a capella, wasn't the hardest thing I've done for audition but it was up there. The benefit was that I was very comfortable with the audition--er, had been my music director for years at that point and I was fearless in my vocal pursuits at the time. It did the trick and I got the spot in a jazz ensemble so it was worth the effort.

2naSalit

(101,530 posts)
38. It was a fun...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:51 PM
Thursday

Extra curricular thing the director put together to explore small jazz vocal groups. We had a few gigs and then it was time to graduate and go get a job.

EverHopeful

(678 posts)
13. When my Dad stood at the top of the stairs and yelled "Why can't you just be normal?"
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 05:35 PM
Thursday

And the answer that popped out of my mouth, without even thinking about it, was "I don't know how."

We both got a good laugh out of that. Loved that we could get mad at each other and shout and get over it. I've met so many people who seem to almost enjoy staying angry. I don't enjoy it. Although you'd think I do with all the time I spend reading the news these days.

chowmama

(1,054 posts)
41. I didn't have an answer until I was an adult
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 09:45 PM
Thursday

The answer is "The same reason I can't be tall, thin, stacked and blonde. I didn't come out that way".

yellow dahlia

(5,391 posts)
14. What a fascinating question.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 05:39 PM
Thursday

When did I know? That's tough.

When did I embrace it? It may have taken until my forties before I embraced it.

I am continually learning to fully embrace it. The older I get, the easier it is. Mr. Dahlia is a source of validation.

And I answered your question in less than a forty page essay.



sakabatou

(46,017 posts)
17. Must've been around elementary or middle school
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:02 PM
Thursday

Where it got to a point where I had to leave class due to noise level. Turned out, after my first semester of college, I was diagnosed as being on the spectrum.

CTyankee

(68,003 posts)
19. When I realized I was beautiful and talented and smart, that's when!
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:07 PM
Thursday

Any more questions?

surrealAmerican

(11,817 posts)
20. I can't remember ever feeling ...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:09 PM
Thursday

... that I was like other people, so it must have been pretty early.

Uncle Joe

(64,727 posts)
22. Remembering the first book, that my mama read to me when I was a small child, "The 300 Spartans."
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:16 PM
Thursday

Thanks for the thread Botany

Bayard

(29,178 posts)
23. Is that mac n' cheese?
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:23 PM
Thursday

Then I'm all in!

When I was in high school, I started questioning Southern Baptist religious beliefs. I hated being forced to go to church. My favorite question: Why? My Mom was so appalled she had the preacher come to the house to talk to me. I thought for sure he was there to perform an exorcism.

EverHopeful

(678 posts)
43. I understand
Fri Feb 20, 2026, 03:49 AM
Friday

My Bible study teacher said all my questions were a sign that Satan was working on my mind. Luckily my parents encouraged thinking and allowed us to explore any religious organization that we were interested in.

chowder66

(12,087 posts)
24. When I asked "Where are all of the black kids" on my 2nd day at my new private Catholic high school.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:43 PM
Thursday

I came from the public school system which was over 80% black.

I was scoffed at by the "head girl" at the cafeteria table which happened to be full of the most popular girls.
She said something like "What? Are you kidding?". I literally didn't understand her reaction.
One girl answered that they had one senior who was bi-racial, the only other black kid was his little sister who came in as a freshman the year I was a senior. There were plenty of hispanic kids which I became friends with and the girl who answered my question became an at-school chum.

Raine

(31,137 posts)
26. When l knew eating meat was wrong and l wouldn't do it
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 06:50 PM
Thursday

when l was a very little kid. Luckily my parents let me do as l wished and never forced me to eat what l didn't want to.

wcmagumba

(5,930 posts)
29. In elementary school. I could make perfect cursive writing of my initials, according to 3rd grade teacher...
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:03 PM
Thursday

Then in 6th grade myself and one other student were allowed to use 7th and 8th grade math texts and "self teach" ourselves. Also, in 6th grade they told me I could read at college level...So smart but due to home and "non-IQ" issues didn't do much with it, I'm 69 now and still a moron in some things...and poor to boot...oh well, it's been "a long strange trip"...

mercuryblues

(16,303 posts)
30. In kindergarten
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:09 PM
Thursday

When I convince my father that slips were supposed to be worn on the outside of your dress. Madonna stole my idea and the rest is history.

ariadne0614

(2,164 posts)
32. When the Sunday School teacher looked at me funny for asking an inconvenient question.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:25 PM
Thursday

I tended to ask a lot of questions that challenged the status quo, and my father often chastised me for thinking too much.That was another clue.

If you ask me, mashed potatoes and peas looks like classic comfort food, especially when it isn’t tainted with cooked animal flesh and bones.

DFW

(59,953 posts)
33. Creeping hints during my teenage years
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:28 PM
Thursday

I refused to dress as the “in crowd” demanded. I didn’t listen to the same music they did, found myself learning to play instruments they didn’t, and when I landed for one year at a boarding “prep” school (and hated it), the only table where I ever sat at meals was the one where all the token black guys were, because they were the only ones without the attitude that the world owed them a living.

The “preppies” never sat with them, and I never sat with anyone else. They all assured me I must have some black blood (not that I knew of) because I wasn’t like the rest of the kids there—a compliment in my eyes, a big negative in the eyes of the school, who made sure I knew it.

I’ve been going my own way ever since. If anything was “in,” the chances were that I was out (you play a what? WTF is a balalaika?).

MW67

(121 posts)
35. Earliest memories
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:31 PM
Thursday

Before I started first grade, they would read the bible to me and I was all questions about how this and that works , have you ever seen any of it? (No ,happened way back almost 2000 years ago) , why doesn't it happen anymore? Then was told there are questions that are inappropriate, still asking em " inappropriate" questions and they still have no answers

markodochartaigh

(5,326 posts)
37. About second grade.
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:45 PM
Thursday

I told my parents that the other kids stared at me. My parents told me just not to look at the other kids and I wouldn't know that they were staring at me.

My parents had no idea what Asperger's was, even that there was any such thing.

0rganism

(25,547 posts)
39. age 5 I think
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 07:52 PM
Thursday

BTW, for those feeling misunderstood due to such differences, I found this video informative and oddly reassuring:

chowmama

(1,054 posts)
42. Day one, or shortly thereafter
Thu Feb 19, 2026, 09:52 PM
Thursday

In kindergarten, there was a low bookshelf with adult books and I preferred to spend any and all playtime there. I could already read print, but one of the books was printed in cursive and I spent a great deal of time trying to decode it.

The teacher kept trying to drag me away and force me to play with the other kids. As soon as her back was turned, I was back to the books. Notes were sent home and there were parent teacher conferences.

I'd have loved long-distance learning, if it had been available then. Kids never made sense to me.

EverHopeful

(678 posts)
44. I see I was lucky at my school
Fri Feb 20, 2026, 04:06 AM
Friday

They right away gave special permission to a couple of us. We didn't have to stay in the little kids section.

I think that's why it took about 20 people telling me I should read Harry Potter and a pre-ebook middle of the night with nothing to read to finally pick up my cousin's Harry Potter book. I'd kept saying I didn't even read "Children's" books when I was a kid.

Luckily I later found other delightful children's books reading to my niece.

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