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Should you always tell the truth, even if it makes things awkward? (Original Post) debm55 Nov 20 OP
Yes, always. Aviation Pro Nov 20 #1
Thank you very much, Aviation Pro, I agree with your statement. debm55 Nov 20 #2
I think honesty is usually the best path unless it can causes hurt that serves no purpose. walkingman Nov 20 #3
if you can't say something good don't say anything at all. rampartd Nov 20 #10
I always side with telling the truth Grim Chieftain Nov 20 #4
Well, don't lie. Full truth is not always necessary if bad feelings will likely result among family, etc. No Vested Interest Nov 20 #5
Being truthful is important.... anciano Nov 20 #6
Nobody likes being lied to. Dorothy V Nov 20 #7
Someone told me many years ago, and I carry it to this day JMCKUSICK Nov 20 #8
That is so true. zanana1 Nov 21 #13
Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate, nocoincidences Nov 20 #9
I never lie about anything JoseBalow Nov 21 #11
I don't know any more! True Dough Nov 21 #12
The truth can be an insult. zanana1 Nov 21 #14
Yes. a white lie or not saying saying anything. But when does the "truth" step into gaslighting? debm55 Nov 21 #15
I support Kurt Vonnegut's concept of "foma" - harmless untruths. Aristus Nov 21 #16
But if it not true, is it not a lie? debm55 Nov 21 #17
Probably not, but I do anyway. malthaussen Nov 21 #18
Thank you very much malthaussen. Sometimes the truth will out. but sometimes it doesn't debm55 Nov 21 #20
my experience is that truth is always best mike_c Nov 21 #19

walkingman

(10,196 posts)
3. I think honesty is usually the best path unless it can causes hurt that serves no purpose.
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 04:52 PM
Nov 20

My life philosophy is being kind not cruel. Sometimes if it even involves telling a "white lie".

Grim Chieftain

(1,020 posts)
4. I always side with telling the truth
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 04:59 PM
Nov 20

Last edited Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:27 PM - Edit history (1)

But I always preface it with "just remember you asked".

Edit to add - It's important to be tactful, compassionate and considerate of one's feelings, but gently tell the truth.
There. That's better.

No Vested Interest

(5,274 posts)
5. Well, don't lie. Full truth is not always necessary if bad feelings will likely result among family, etc.
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 05:25 PM
Nov 20

anciano

(2,069 posts)
6. Being truthful is important....
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 05:30 PM
Nov 20

unless it's about the size of that fish I caught last summer.

Dorothy V

(424 posts)
7. Nobody likes being lied to.
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 05:37 PM
Nov 20

If you really think telling the truth would be harmful in some way, remember that silence is golden.

JMCKUSICK

(4,746 posts)
8. Someone told me many years ago, and I carry it to this day
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 05:43 PM
Nov 20

"Honesty without kindness is Cruel"

nocoincidences

(2,445 posts)
9. Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate,
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:25 PM
Nov 20

is an art.

Ex. Do these pants make my butt look big?

Being right is not always the correct response.

It's winning the battle or winning the war. Choose carefully.

True Dough

(25,389 posts)
12. I don't know any more!
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 05:59 AM
Nov 21

Lying through your teeth can result in you inhabiting the highest office in the land.

Sadly, that might be incentive for some people to lie.



zanana1

(6,454 posts)
14. The truth can be an insult.
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 06:14 AM
Nov 21

I was at a social gathering not long ago, and a 10 year old kid pointed at me and yelled "YOU'RE FAT"! I took the little sh..kid aside and told him that hurting someone's feelings is not funny and that he should think about what he says. He smiled and said "HAH HAH"! I wanted to swat him. (Can you tell I don't have kids?).

debm55

(53,588 posts)
15. Yes. a white lie or not saying saying anything. But when does the "truth" step into gaslighting?
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 09:20 AM
Nov 21

Aristus

(71,411 posts)
16. I support Kurt Vonnegut's concept of "foma" - harmless untruths.
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 11:39 AM
Nov 21

"How do I look in this?"

"You look lovely. You always do".

malthaussen

(18,337 posts)
18. Probably not, but I do anyway.
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 12:20 PM
Nov 21

The truth, or say nothing. It is possible, however, to dodge potentially awkward questions depending on the context.

But when all evasion fails, the truth will out.

-- Mal

mike_c

(36,875 posts)
19. my experience is that truth is always best
Fri Nov 21, 2025, 12:22 PM
Nov 21

Even good intentioned lies eventually become indefensible and are never a good look. The truth usually comes out sooner or later.

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