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MIButterfly

(3,518 posts)
Sun May 10, 2026, 03:36 PM May 10

The first Mother's Day after my mother passed away was very hard

She had only been gone three months and aside from the grief I was experiencing, I started to feel guilty about having never taken her out to dinner or brunch at a nice restaurant for Mother's Day. But then I started thinking about what I did do for her on Mother's Day. I took her to Bingo, which she loved. I took her to Chicago to see the Cubs, which she loved. I took her to Cincinnati to see the Cubs play the Reds, which she loved. I like to think I gave her good memories for Mother's Day and that she enjoyed those experiences more than going out to eat at a fancy restaurant.

Happy Mother's Day, Mom! Give Gramma a kiss for me. Miss you both.

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The first Mother's Day after my mother passed away was very hard (Original Post) MIButterfly May 10 OP
Hugs to you dear MIButterfly Grim Chieftain May 10 #1
Thank you, Grim Chieftain! MIButterfly May 10 #2
🫂 mwmisses4289 May 10 #3
Sounds as if you & your Mom enjoyed some great Mother's Days together! SheltieLover May 10 #4
Moms know love Tesha May 10 #5
I don't want to be taken to fancy restaurants. Irish_Dem May 10 #6
I always lived a pretty far distance from my mom after I grew up. oberle May 10 #7
We're all spread out. calimary May 10 #8
Sweet Tribute to your Mom on Cha May 10 #9
I hear you... surrealAmerican May 10 #10
My own experience was the same Lithos May 10 #11
Yesterday was my first Mother's Day since my Mom passed earlier this year. COL Mustard May 11 #12

Grim Chieftain

(2,338 posts)
1. Hugs to you dear MIButterfly
Sun May 10, 2026, 03:53 PM
May 10

This day can be very difficult for many of us. You're in my thoughts.

Irish_Dem

(82,786 posts)
6. I don't want to be taken to fancy restaurants.
Sun May 10, 2026, 04:34 PM
May 10

It is way too much money and not very fun.

My family descended upon my house for the weekend.
We cooked our favorite foods, I got taken to a movie theater,
first time in many years, to see The Devil Wears Prada,
we laughed and laughed.

Then a wonderful pottery class to make vases.
Then a trip to my favorite Chinese restaurant where we ordered a lot of food!

It was a total blast and I loved every minute of it.
They finally left and I just finished cleaning the house, but I am a happy camper.

oberle

(475 posts)
7. I always lived a pretty far distance from my mom after I grew up.
Sun May 10, 2026, 04:48 PM
May 10

For 25 years, I lived in a college town with a great bookstore. That store had a wonderful dirty card collection. My mom just loved the dirty cards I'd send her, especially the Mothers Day cards. I got to thinking about that today.

calimary

(91,518 posts)
8. We're all spread out.
Sun May 10, 2026, 05:55 PM
May 10

Over three states.

But it doesn’t seem to matter since we’re still close, we still like each other as well as loving each other. I’m REALLY proud of them both. And we’re all on good terms with each other, and still in regular communication all around. I can’t think of a single thing to complain about.

And if need be, we’re all within a few hours’ drive of each other. Not too close, but not TOO terribly long a drive away, either.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms here!!!

Cha

(321,638 posts)
9. Sweet Tribute to your Mom on
Sun May 10, 2026, 06:29 PM
May 10

her Celestial Mother's Day, MIButterfly.

I remember it well, so long ago. I wrote a card to her, anyway.

Mahalo~ 💔 💙 ☮️ 🌻🕯️🕊️💜

surrealAmerican

(11,951 posts)
10. I hear you...
Sun May 10, 2026, 06:35 PM
May 10

... and even though I tried to do right by my mother, I still carry some guilt about her years after she died.

I can only hope I've been the best mother (and grandmother) I could be.

Lithos

(26,661 posts)
11. My own experience was the same
Sun May 10, 2026, 06:53 PM
May 10

TBH, Mother's Day is a call to memory and reflection. There is a bit of reconciliation where we always feel measured short. Don't.

Recover.

Focus on how these memories help you move forward and how they help you judge what's right/wrong and the values you need to pass along to the next generations.

COL Mustard

(8,492 posts)
12. Yesterday was my first Mother's Day since my Mom passed earlier this year.
Mon May 11, 2026, 08:37 AM
May 11

She was a huge Trumper, to the point where I couldn't stay connected to her on social media, and we couldn't talk politics at all. But she was still my Mom, and I loved her and missed her. It's weird how this apple fell from the tree, rolled down the hill and kept going.

Love you, Mom.

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