Ulysses, another long-time DUer gone
I'm not on DU very often these days, but I checked the In Memoriam section and noted that one passing had not been listed.
Those of you who have been on this site for several years will remember John Carle, who posted under the name of Ulysses. Aside from astute political comments, he shared with us the story of adopting his son.
He was one of the DUers who became a Facebook friend, and I learned about his experiences as a dedicated teacher, including starting an after-school club aimed at getting boys to enjoy reading, and becoming a stepfather to his second wife Jennifer's children. However, this past fall, I began seeing posts about him having cancer. Then he passed away in November.
Jennifer posted the following in April 2026:
"It has been five months since John died and somehow i am still on my feet, still moving forward. Chris [John's son] came over today, we finished his FAFSA and I got to mother-hen him a bit. I filled his car up with gas and bought him frozen custard.
Time is so weird. Sometimes it seems like only yesterday that John and I were enjoying the mundane tasks of life,hand-in-hand. And sometimes our entire relationship seems like it existed in a dream from long ago. Time will tell, time heals all wounds, time is money, it's all in the timing. Time is the one precious commodity that we can never get back. And I will always cherish the time I had with him.
I will tell all of you this: don't waste time, don't lose one single moment, because you never know when your time will be up. Pursue that dream, take that leap of faith, and hold on to the people you love for all the time you can."
I'm sure that all long-time DUers will join in expressing their condolences to Ulysses' family and friends.
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Thanks for posting this. 
Rest in Peace good man!
Peace Love and Strength to all of his family and freinds.
It feels wrenching to realize he's been gone this many months but there are so many here who fondly remember him. RIP, John. You will be missed.
Ulysses was one of the greats. Very sharp in his comments.
RIP
it would be helpful.
to Ulysses's family.
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i had no idea.
we became good friends thru DU, and he was my semi neighbor.
i was also friends with his first wife, but we got out of touch once they divorced and he moved out of state.
he had a dog named Scarlett who had allergies and also a skin condition. as I'm an allergy sufferer too, he called us Itchy and Scratchy.
the last interaction i had with him was on Twitter when i informed him my cat had died. after john moved out of my area to Douglas County, he had rescued the cat after noticing she was eating garbage and i adopted her.
