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ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)It denies both men and women their individuality.
DavidDvorkin
(19,884 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Different genders have different "realms."
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Gotcha.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)imagine.
Patriarchy is largely gender-based social roles and beliefs based on "traditional" norms. I put the word "traditional" in quotes because some of the roles or standards have been reversed over the course of human, western history.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)See, I call BS. I think "patriarchy" is merely shorthand for saying that everything bad on Planet Earth is the fault of some nefarious penis conspiracy. It's ridiculous.
That's awful generous of you, however, to "permit" me to think what I want. Some folks can't even seem to manage that much.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)I would either like it a lot more, or a lot less. "Nefarious Penis Conspiracy" actually sounds like a really cool band name, in my opinion, and will easily be the best phrase in this thread.
However, patriarchy is supported by both men and women. Broadly, no one gender is at fault, though on some specific issues, such as rape, men are clearly more to blame than women.
Patriarchy has two common meanings, one is a system of rule by males, which we used to have, and the other is rigid gender roles, which are weakening, to my delight. Both of those definitions are overly narrow. If patriarchy just meant, "men suck," then I would consider it fallacious, and I would argue against it. There have been some groups that have used the term that way, but they are not taken seriously by very many.
True, women were seen as academically inferior for a long time, but this has switched, and a rigid, sexist gender role is still present.
You're very welcome.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)To blame it on "The Patriarchy" is to accept a particular, narrow narrative promulgated by folks with a definite agenda. Yes, traditional gender roles- often perpetuated by religions with a patriarchal orientation- are thankfully getting less restrictive. That's a good thing.
Blaming it on "The Patriarchy" is merely a tool by which, again, all evil is ascribed to one male-based system perpetuated, apparently, to ensure unlimited masturbatory access to the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue and oppress half of humanity by allowing people to look at naked boobs on the interwebs. It totally ignores the biggest elephant in the room- religion- for one.
I note, however, that "gender is an artificial, meaningless construct" seems to be this week's talking point, sort of how "men can't be feminists" was the talking point a few weeks ago.
Which begs the question: If gender doesn't exist, how are "we" supposed to know who is "allowed" to call themselves Feminists, and who isn't?
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)To blame it on "The Patriarchy" is to accept a particular, narrow narrative promulgated by folks with a definite agenda.
I think this is actually a good rhetorical call. I think I will use other words and phrases when outside of school.
You're preaching to the choir on that one. (pun intended)
I agree with that, but I think almost everything is meaningless.
Short answer: I don't know.
Longer answer: There are actually many different types of feminism, so when someone says, "I am a feminist," we don't really know what they believe and don't believe. I don't think any one group of feminists can be considered the real feminists, just like no one group of Christians can claim to be the real Christians. When I took my first women's studies class, one of the first things our professor told us was that social movements are very messy, and not always universally, clearly defined. OWS is a fantastic example of that.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)good way to remind the old brain about the limitations of semantic maps, labels, and the like.
Edited to add: When I have, previously, self-identified as a "Feminist", I have gone by the definition popularized on signs and t-shirts at places like the March For Womens Lives I attended in DC, in 2004; namely, "Feminism is the radical idea that women are people", radical, of course intended facetiously. Or that Feminism was the struggle for equal rights regardless of gender. Both seemingly straightforward, no-brainer concepts to me. Which is why I was surprised by the vehement arguments we recently saw pretty much drawing a stark line in the sand about "Men can't be Feminists".
Particularly in light of other things I've heard in recent years, complaints bemoaning young women disassociating themselves from the label "Feminist" because the label was perceived, wrongly we were told, as representing something intolerant, non inclusive, and most importantly meaning something other than (incorrectly, so it went) "the struggle for equal rights regardless of gender".
So again, it struck me as odd that all of a sudden there was this move to define the label more rigidly, and non-inclusive.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)Jonas Salk was the product of a "traditional patriarchal culture". How many "Jonas'" are out there today, but fail to achieve because they learned by age four that they weren't smart like the girls.
As you've noted, "patriarchy" appears to swing every which-way, depending on the desired point to be made.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)I found them to be a mediocre garage band at best.
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)it worked in my home. it is what we consistently promoted from day one in our boys. it is what we addressed with school. i could not agree more.
i would tell a teacher that we had high expectations and i expected teachers to feel the same when it came to my kids.
thanks for this post. i will read more of it later.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I come from a long line of freethinkers, early readers, essentially people who found school too friggin' slow and boring, rote and repetitive.
I don't know what the immediate answer is, but as a parent I can tell you that job #1 for all of us needs to be funding schools adequately (maybe by taking money from the Military Industrial Complex and the Drug War?) and getting class sizes down.