Laid off 11.11.2010 never came back from it

[XanaDUer2]

Yep, still bitter. I was on top of the world, working in a hospital, making a good salary for a woman in the South. Professionally active. Publishing. President of state association

Id worked 5.5 yrs there. Great reviews, happy drs, covering the work of two workers. Then the diagnosis of in situ melanoma. First domino fell. 4 mos into tx where I was terrified, laid off and tossed away.in the middle of this nightmare, put my 3-legged dog to sleep.

Took me 4 months to find a comparable job and a 25k loss of salary. The layoffees were not even given the holidays. I spent them worried about dying and desperately searching for a job online. Got one 2 states away. Moved $.

Stayed there a yr. The director was a lunatic. Left for a higher-paying but Horrible ( I didn't anticipate it) job few hundred miles away. Found out my previous job was cut in a merger. So it would have been 2 layoffs in 2 yrs. I don't think I could have come back mentally from that. So I did miss that.but i started having panic attacks from the stress.

Had an eventual nervous breakdown due to a toxic job now on ssdi. Ppl say let it go. But everything i worked so hard to achieve was yanked away from me in minutes. Bitter. Very. I nvr came back from it

[OLDMDDEM]

1. I understand your point. I retired after being laid off at my job 4 years ago. I was 73 at the time and

I didn't want to stop. 50 years as an accountant. I didn't take social security until I was 71, so my benefit was much higher than most my age. Hang in there. Het a hobby. Help others thru their similar sorrow. I'm sorry i can't give you more advice.

[XanaDUer2]

2. I'm sorry

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Had I been in my 70s, Id be pissed but prob ok and retire.

Ty for reading

ETA I was 45. 22 yrs of work stretching b4 me. I'm sorry you were let go from a job you lived. Layoffs hurt

[MotownPgh]

4. Same thing at the same age. Been

struggling for years. Terrifying to not have health insurance at my age.

[XanaDUer2]

6. Can you get an aca policy?

I had to b4 Medicare kicked in. It was free to me

[MotownPgh]

12. Apparently with my low income, I was

kicked to medicaid in PA. But medicaid requires under 65 to work 30 hours/week. Or take early social security.

[XanaDUer2]

7. Sometimes I still get enraged

But its mostly regret and depression

[slightlv]

10. For me, it's regret, depression, frustration, and lots of anger!

After about 3 years, it's begun to calm down, especially now since I feel the need to look after my ageing husband even closer. But I LOVED my job, loved what I was doing, loved my coworkers, and loved the National Guard and Reserve students I worked with, both locally and overseas. What took me out was disability and asking for 2 days remote work, even tho working at the office or at home meant I was working on WiFi. I just got more done at home... and I could do it in my own hours, laying down to rest as I needed. I just ended up eventually having a manager who was conflict-averse. I did wonder how he made through the Army with that attitude, or maybe it was women he had a problem with... (sigh)

I finally determined one aspect of my resentment came from not feeling needed anymore... that's why I think it's lightened up some now that hubby needs me more, and my grandson has also moved in. I have people to look after, and that does make a difference for me. I gave up looking for a job (more or less)... the only one I checked out turned out to be a damned scam. I figure when you can no longer trust the damned headhunters, the world doesn't need me!

[XanaDUer2]

13. I had a great boss, coworkers

Schedule, interesting work, good salary, dressed in expensive clothing I could finally afford, went to Atlanta to do things on the weekends...

My bff lived across the street... life was good and i didn't realize it was fleeting and i didn't appreciate it at the time.

Had i known Id be let go, Id tried harder to get an academic job

[slightlv]

16. Before I work DoD Army, I was network administrator

for a consortium of libraries in KC. Loved every minute of that, as well... the only place I ever worked where I could come in to work bleary eyed and yawning because I'd been up the night before reading "just a few more chapters"... and most everyone else looks the same as me! (LOL)

[XanaDUer2]

17. Lol

[LoisB]

15. I think you have nailed it. I think that "need to be needed" plays a much larger role in emotional and mental

health than we think or is studied.

[LoisB]

3. That is tough. I wish I had some words of wisdom but I don't. I do think that verbalizing helps so fire away.

Many, many hugs to you.

[XanaDUer2]

5. Ty

Today is a bad, bad day. I think I'm having a panic attack. I have no idea how I got through some of this. I've always tried to be a good person and just feel like life has shit all over me. Like the next thing to happen will be cancer or something. My partner and relatives are not helping and borderline abusive.

[LoisB]

8. I actually do know how you feel having spent a lot of time asking "what did I ever do to deserve this", I have sent

out messages to The Universe seeking forgiveness for any harm I may have done to someone else. Why didn't I do this or why didn't I do that? I could have/should have...Then one day I decided that I am not going to allow the rest of my life to be consumed by the past. It is not easy but I truly believe that I am stronger than anything THIS world can throw at me.

Keep on trucking XanaDUer2; you ARE a good person. Believe in yourself, believe in your strength. Life has thrown some bombs at you but you're still standing.

Hugs, my fellow traveler.

[slightlv]

11. Your first line gave me a smile, Lois...

My line has always been, "What Chinese philosopher did I offend, and how can I make recompense?"

[LoisB]

14. That is a good one. I like it, thank you.

[XanaDUer2]

9. Id be lost without DUers nt