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RamblingRose

(1,151 posts)
Sun Jan 18, 2026, 02:41 PM Sunday

Question about Moderation Management Groups

Last summer I was shocked to learn my husband of 33 years had become an alcoholic. He retired early 2 years earlier from a very stressful high level job. When he finally told me about the drinking he was having DT's. He did an in-patient detox program, followed by an extensive out patient program at Emory (4 weeks?) & his doctor put him on Trazodone.

Since then, he has had 2 "slips" that I know of, including one this week he tried to lie about. He bought 4 cheap single serving wine bottles & had drank one before I called him out on it (I bought a breathalyzer off Amazon).

I was never much of a drinker so it was easy for me to stop drinking. We smoke pot or do edibles in the evenings when watching a movie or listening to music.

He does not want to do a traditional AA program but has tried various online meetings, including Recovery Dharma & a Moderation Management group.

Thoughts or words of support?

Thanks
Rambling

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Question about Moderation Management Groups (Original Post) RamblingRose Sunday OP
People I know love & benefit greatly from Recovery Dharma SheltieLover Sunday #1
Thanks RamblingRose 14 hrs ago #4
Yw! SheltieLover 14 hrs ago #6
I highly recommend SMART Recovery bif 16 hrs ago #2
BTW Here's their website bif 15 hrs ago #3
He hasn't mentioned that one. I'll check it out. Thanks RamblingRose 14 hrs ago #5
Why not AA? Their success rate is very high RainCaster 9 hrs ago #7
A cautionary note on Moderation Management - read about the founder, progree 8 hrs ago #8

bif

(26,711 posts)
2. I highly recommend SMART Recovery
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 02:37 PM
16 hrs ago

I've been doing it for over 7 years. They do in person and zoom meetings. And no matter what time of day, or day of the week, there's always a meeting you can take part in. And if you want, you can just listen in on a zoom meeting and see how you (he) likes it. I can't say enough about it. If you need any more info, feel free to DM me.

RainCaster

(13,401 posts)
7. Why not AA? Their success rate is very high
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 10:05 PM
9 hrs ago

It is a lifetime program, not something you do for a short time. I have a number of friends in AA that I can count on if I ever need help with anything. That's unique and very valuable to me.

progree

(12,760 posts)
8. A cautionary note on Moderation Management - read about the founder,
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 10:34 PM
8 hrs ago

Audrey Kishline.

It probably works fine for some people.

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