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Maraya1969

(23,229 posts) Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:17 PM Saturday

I keep forgetting this manipulative technique that my cousin has used on me Please help

She never expresses her anger but she does things that are sneaky to hurt me. Like a few years ago she was very angry at me because of the way I treated her when we were on a vacation to a weekend trip to an Eckart Tolle retreat ( I have come up with this conclusion on my own) The last day was a Sunday and I woke up way passst the time to go to the last day of the retreat. Her excuse for not getting me up was that she "tried" to wake me up but I didn't get up. I found out that she had been awake for a few hours and just didn't get me up like we had agreed. I know there is a name for this behaviour but I keep forgetting it.
What is the name????

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I keep forgetting this manipulative technique that my cousin has used on me Please help (Original Post) Maraya1969 Saturday OP

Passive aggressive SheltieLover Saturday #1

YES!!!! I don't know why I keep forgetting the name for it she is so typical Maraya1969 Saturday #3

Sounds as if you would do well to steer clear of her. SheltieLover Saturday #6

Rude. That's what this behavior is called. Plain rude. And ignorant. Dump your cousin, she's not worth it, if she's SWBTATTReg Saturday #2

I have not spoken with her since I found out she is a shithead supporter Maraya1969 Saturday #5

This kind of behavior is difficult to deal with viva la Saturday #4

SheltieLover

(65,673 posts)

1. Passive aggressive

Reply to Maraya1969 (Original post)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:19 PM

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Maraya1969

(23,229 posts)

3. YES!!!! I don't know why I keep forgetting the name for it she is so typical

Reply to SheltieLover (Reply #1)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:25 PM

Saturday

. I even remember as kids we both had a deck of cards and all of a sudden mine was all crinkled. And she didn't know how they got that way.

There is something wrong with a person who deals with aanger in that way

SheltieLover

(65,673 posts)

6. Sounds as if you would do well to steer clear of her.

Reply to Maraya1969 (Reply #3)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 07:22 PM

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SWBTATTReg

(25,067 posts)

2. Rude. That's what this behavior is called. Plain rude. And ignorant. Dump your cousin, she's not worth it, if she's

Reply to Maraya1969 (Original post)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:20 PM

Saturday

treating you like this.

Maraya1969

(23,229 posts)

5. I have not spoken with her since I found out she is a shithead supporter

Reply to SWBTATTReg (Reply #2)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:33 PM

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I thought that was the case and I decided let it go but when I realized that the reason I was not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas or to their Condo was because she said we would just fight, I came to the conclusion that she was not worth it. It is kind of sad because I have very little family left, but she is just not worth it, (And off course she is a dTrump supporter)

viva la

(4,019 posts)

4. This kind of behavior is difficult to deal with

Reply to Maraya1969 (Original post)

Sat Mar 29, 2025, 06:33 PM

Saturday

because they'll just lie and say that's not what they meant.

I don't think it's possible to deal with people like this and stay in balance. Can you ease out of her life?
This kind of person also does a lot of gaslighting-- "No, you're the one who is crazy, not me." That really undermines your confidence.

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