HUFFPOST PERSONAL
My Dad Was Gay But Married To My Mom
For 64 Years. As She Died, I Overheard Something I Can't Forget.
"Had I been wrong about my dad this man I knew to be so wonderful and caring and loving, not only to my mom and my siblings and me, but seemingly to everyone he knew?"
By Laura Hall
Jun 29, 2025, 08:32 AM EDT

The author's parents, Irene Hall, age 21, and Ralph Hall, age 27, in Pacific Grove, California, in 1945. COURTESY OF LAURA HALL
My father was gay. He was born in 1918. In my 20s, he started telling me stories about his early life. He was out in the 1930s at a time when it wasnt common. He had dreams that most would not believe he dared to dream. The problem with my dad telling me all of this was that he was still married to my mother.
In 1939, at a party in the Hollywood Hills with gay filmmakers and musicians, he was arrested. Police officers handcuffed the men, herded them into a van, and took them to jail. The following morning, he appeared before a judge for sentencing. Because the arresting officer couldnt swear that he saw him touching his dance partner, he was released.
Then he was caught up in an illegal sting operation in Pasadena that targeted gay men. They were extorted by the police for cash payments in return for conditional release. His dreams of being a schoolteacher and living with his boyfriend were destroyed.
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The author's father, Ralph, living as an out gay man, in Central Valley, California, in 1937.COURTESY OF LAURA HALL
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