My sister committed suicide today. I'm the one who.found her and
called 911. She has been depressed since her husband died 3 years ago today. I now have only my son and granddaughter as my family.
I've never had to deal directly with a death before. Right now I'm angry that she couldn't move forward with living.
I had thought we'd travel together and enjoy our senior years. She was 70 and I'm 68.
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Please be gentle with yourself. 
I lost my fiancee to suicide several decades ago so I understand the shock.
I wish the two of you could have enjoyed your senior years together.
you have of your sister help ease the shock and sadness of the loss. My sympathy to the family and all who knew and loved your sister. 
this is so sad. You have suffered a big loss. You have my sympathy.
I am beyond inadequate in conveying how much concern I feel for you and all who loved your sister.
May many many many rally behind you, support you and may you find peace in that shower of caring.
I didn't know Hospice was a resource.
Please use every resource available to lean on.
My heart breaks for you....and there's lots of kindness here at DU anytime you need....but get in contact with support systems in real life. Please. When trauma hits, this is what we need most.
I can't even imagine how bad this is for your family. We are here, and we are thinking about you.
My sister Committed suicide in 1978 at the age of 34… her two small children found her…
May you find peace.
I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling. It's going to be hard moving forward from this, but you have a good support system here at DU. Thoughts for you, your son and your granddaughter at this difficult time.
I hope you can somehow find peace although I know you're in a lot of pain right now.
I don't have the right words, but know you have my deepest sympathy.
I am so sorry to hear this. My sister did that almost two years ago now, she was 68. Her husband committed suicide eight yeas prior and she'd had a hard road on all levels thereafter. She left us with a house going into foreclosure and a big legal mess.
I am sorry for you and your family. I am noticing that I count how many siblings I have left lately, 3 out of 5, and it gives me an odd feeling.
I do hope that you are able to endure all that comes next, my thoughts and meditations will include you and your family for a while.
That is so sad.
May you all find peace and comfort.
I cannot imagine your feelings
...I am so sorry you were the one who had to find her... that said, be angry, but realize, this wasn't about you. This was about her and how she felt she could not go on. And try to understand that she may have been dealing with depression and negative feelings that you really can't imagine at this time.
And now to you... please consider talking with someone, please consider seeing a Therapist, you are going to need to reach out to someone and talk with someone who can help you. And wonderful and supporting DU may be, you're probably going to need something more to help process this loss.
Bless your heart.
Condolences.
Been there.
It helped me to remember the person as they were when they were happy and healthy.
Wishing you healing and just know you are not alone.
with the others.
Be very gentle and kind to yourself.
what you must be going through...blessings on you, your son, and your granddaughter...may you sister finally find peace
How sad........I can't imagine.....
during this time.
When people commit suicide who are not under horrible outside forces they are not in their right minds. I believe at the time of her death your sister suffered from a mental problem that caused he to not see things clearly.
I am so sorry.
I hope you have lots of irl support. This is so hard.
Pleas accept my condolences on the profound loss of your sister. There are no words. I'm just so sorry.
what a tremendous loss and sorrow.
suicide can make losing a loved one even more difficult to cope with.
wishing both you and your sister some peace.
I don't blame you for being angry. I am sorry for your loss, and hope you take time for yourself to heal before trying to move forward.
don't know what to say, I hurt for you.
You will have moments, many, many, moments of unspeakable grief during the coming days and weeks and months and yes, years. My advice is to seek counsel to deal with your pain. Everyone handles their grief differently, but in the end, it's all about feeling helpless and lonely. I've been there and deal with it every day. First I was angry, then felt guilty that I couldn't have been of more help. I will have to say, I don't think it's helpful to blame the person who felt so alone, they felt the only way to escape their pain was to end it all. Until you've been in that exact same position, how could one possibly know what was going on in her heart and soul and mind. Please take care of yourself and express your grief openly and freely ~ it does help to get through the lonely days ahead.
what else can be said right now??
Your anger is completely understandable.
Dealing with death is NO picnic.
What sometimes helps is to seek support. There is grief counseling. There are support groups and bereavement groups. Thanks to your post, I now know, for example, that there's even a Bereavement Group here. Seek out support. There are many strong shoulders to lean on, at times like this. When my mother died, they sure came out for me, here. We certainly see that manifested in this thread of yours.
You're gonna have SOOOOOO many mixed feelings in the days, months, and even years ahead. So take comfort wherever you find it. It WILL be there. And remember this, too: "FAMILY" can be defined in many ways, not just by blood. You already have a big one right here, for example.
I'm so sorry. What an awful thing to happen to you.
What a tragedy....
whenever they can reach you, and strength. Feeling very sad for you, sf.
Depression is terrible. I have suffered from it and many times I thought of suicide. The psychic pain can get so bad and you can sink so deeply into it that you truly believe it will never end, and if the onset of her depression was due to her husband's death it had to be even worse. She must have felt her life was over.
All of you need to go through all the stages of grief. Give yourself ample room to do so. Don't get stuck in your anger because neither you or your children deserve that.
Sorry for your loss.
the incredible pain and confusion and the absolute unreality of it all. I hope you can feel my
My heart goes out to you. Sending you oodles of healing vibes.
I am SO sorry.
Hugs from another old broad way up here, and yeah, you're welcome at our shack any time. It is the hardest thing to do; a loved one who is gone. May your other loved ones and your good memories keep you.
