first Christmas

[onethatcares]

and dammint I don't feel merry or happy or joyous at all.

I'm heart broken.

I barely made it thru thanksgiving and just don't want to act like I care about who got what, or where they went or what they gave to who.

My wife of 53 years died from cancer and a brain bleed on 11/8/25. the pain is just too raw

[Irish_Dem]

1. The first year is the hardest.

And the holidays will be difficult.

It will get better.

[no_hypocrisy]

2. Try a Blue Christmas service this year.

You don't feel like celebrating. It's more of a remembrance.

Read this post and comments: https://www.democraticunderground.com/1218328296

Offering you a hug.

[niyad]

3. huggggggggggs. Know that your DU family is here

for you. Lean as hard as you need.

You do not have to meet anyone's expectations of how you should be doing, feeling, being. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are dealing with, but you have our support and love and none-judgment here.

[murielm99]

4. Do what you want this Christmas.

You do not have to meet anyone's expectations.

[SheltieLover]

5. Deepest condolences

Please be gentle with yourself & do whatever you are comfortable doing, including nothing.

[snowybirdie]

6. Hang on

Try and remember her with a good deed for someone.it helps

[NNadir]

7. The holidays are very tough for those who grieve. I saw it in my father when my mother passed.

I'm not sure we even put up a tree. There seemed to be no point.

It never went away, but we learned, he learned, to live with it.

In time the memory of the love is healing as the absence no longer feels so much as what it is.

You have my deepest condolences.

Be well.

[brer cat]

8. I am sorry you are in so much pain.

The first year is the hardest, although that doesn't ease your pain now. I think you should do what you are comfortable with, even if it is staying home alone,

Hugs from your DU family.