Woudn't follow instructions

[CountAllVotes]

My husband has been very ill with dementia.

He was told to use the walker at all times but he wouldn't do it.

We went out and he fell and broke his hip.

He is on his way out now I was just told.

It has been a long haul. Very long.

A priest in going to go see him to give him his last rites.

My god. My god.

[BigMin28]

1. I am so, so sorry.

[XanaDUer2]

2. I'm sorry

Blessings.

[Bluethroughu]

3. I'm sorry you are going through all this.

[jmbar2]

4. I cannot imagine how alone you must feel right now.

I'm glad that you shared your story. This is a very supportive community, even if we are merely pixels in the ether.

I pray that he has a peaceful crossing.

(((Hugs))) as you make this painful transition.

[CountAllVotes]

5. I hope he goes quick

He cannot breathe.

He cannot eat.

I've been alone for many years now.

It is very peaceful here in my home with me three cats that are very upset.

His favorite one has been crying all night.

I knew yesterday that he wasn't going to make it but they didn't listen to me.

Today they did.

[jmbar2]

6. Focus all your love on the kitties

He is shedding his broken container to be free again.

Hang in there.

[CountAllVotes]

7. They are moving him now

The cost will be $300 a day.

They want $3200 up front.

$300 a day until he goes.

Not much of an income here as I am 100% disabled w/MS.

Great system in this country isn't it?

[3Hotdogs]

9. If he or you were veterans, call your local VA

Or American Legion.

Every county has an office

[CountAllVotes]

10. He is a veteran

They haven't done a damn thing but give him a shingles shot!

[3Hotdogs]

11. Get in touch with the Legion

[CountAllVotes]

12. What do they do?

I'm so sick of all of this go here, go there, call this place, call that place.

Shame on the VA! SHAME!

[snowybirdie]

8. Sending hugs your way

You have friends here!

[Karadeniz]

13. Oh, no! Sincerest sympathy for you at this time... we know old age and its problem loom, but it's

impossible to be really prepared for it. We've had three dementia cases in our family and we intellectually said goodbye years before their deaths... but love is a one-way street so the heart doesn't give up.

[BoomaofBandM]

14. It is so hard to be a caregiver. Hugs to you.

[CountAllVotes]

15. Its been a real bitch

I gave it my best shot and I guess it wasn't good enough.

[BoomaofBandM]

16. You were good enough, you gave him lots of time he would not have had.

It is ok to be sad and frustrated, but please don't blame yourself. Life and accidents happen. And it seems many here are dealing with elderly parents and spouses. Take care of yourself.

[CountAllVotes]

17. yes 44 years

It was a long time to be a caregiver.

Too long.

What a waste.

[BoomaofBandM]

18. That is a long time.

[CountAllVotes]

19. ..

Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.

Lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil.

Deliver us from evil lord.

May god have mercy on his soul.

[No Vested Interest]

20. Dear one, just go with the flow at this time.

Let others do what they must do, and breathe deeply and know that we are not fully in charge and never have been fully in charge.

He has fought the good fight, and you have done all that you could for your good and dear man.

Let be what will be, for your own good and for his good.
All here join with you in your sorrow and sense of powerlessness at this time.

Find the peace you need in this moment.

[CountAllVotes]

21. Thank you

I'm not making any more phone calls.

It is too late.

As for the VA, they can 'eff right off!

I did all a human could do for another one.

A sad peacefulness is surrounding me.

I felt this coming months ago.

Instinct I guess you could call it.

Thank you for you kind words.

[CountAllVotes]

22. Update on this situation

He is in a hospice house facility.

The cost is $500/day.

He was supposedly given last rites yesterday.

I called Social Security and I will receive a solitary check for $250.00 to cover the cost of his funeral.

I bring in $1000 a month on SSDI.

He was bringing in $500.

I will not be getting anything despite the fact we have been married for 36 years.

Poverty awaits.

How will I get by on this pittance?

I could never find an American Legion that has a working phone.

No word from the VA.

However, hospice was able to get over here in 20 mins. to collect their $3200 for the first week of his stay which I put on my credit card.

How will I manage?

He lied and lied badly.

He must have known as he was on Social Security for 25 years!

Grief stricken and pissed off is not a good combination is it?