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Ms. Toad

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44. I wore makeup occasionally in a very brief period as a new lawyer -

Tue Jul 29, 2025, 05:46 PM

Jul 29

mostly for job interviews or when I was in court. And when I'm on stage.

I've never dyed my hair for age-related reasons - I've been going gray naturally since sometime in my 40s.

Recently (since retirement), I've been using a blue pigmented conditioner - which colors the salt part of my hair bright teal. Just because it's fun. I've been using the same $27 bottle for 3 years.

The thing I didn't expect is that virtually everyone who comments on my teal hair is black. I can recall 1 neutral comment (just an observation) a tease from my sister the cosmetologist (Who did that to your hair?), and maybe two recent compliments from white folks - and at least 30 compliments from black women.

My mother never dyed her hair - although she did wear a wig when she was in nursing school because she hated how her hair looked when she got out of the pool. One grandmother never dyed her hair. The other dyed hers a pink/purple for nearly as long as I knew her. In her mind, she had brown hair - and scolded my mother once for buying light purple hairnets (which she always wore), because she had brown hair. (She had macular degeneration and couldn't actually see the color.)

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Jamie Lee Curtis says there has been a "genocide of a generation of women by the cosmeceutical industrial complex" [View all] Just_Vote_Dem Jul 29 OP

Men teach their own sons (by example) to ignore women over a certain age, excepting their own mothers (usually)... hlthe2b Jul 29 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver Jul 29 #32

That is so true. I hate being invisible. LisaM Jul 29 #36

I love being invisible. Demobrat Jul 29 #42

Every time I say it, someone says how great it is. That bothers me LisaM Jul 29 #47

You're right Lisa. It sucks when we share a vulnerability, something which Maru Kitteh Jul 29 #59

same Skittles Jul 29 #53

It took me a while until I realised that being invisible GenThePerservering Jul 29 #55

I like being invisible but sometimes I still get noticed and I get upset. kimbutgar Jul 29 #58

Fortunately the Internet is a cornucopia of women supporting each other TheProle Jul 29 #40

Yes, right. NT GenThePerservering Jul 29 #56

I have never had any kind of cosmetic surgery Jilly_in_VA Jul 29 #2

Ha! You sound exactly like me! senseandsensibility Jul 29 #3

My Wife Doesn't Either ProfessorGAC Jul 29 #9

Me too! My DH and my boys love me the way I am Bettie Jul 29 #15

that's something I learned a long time ago Skittles Jul 29 #29

I'm still coming to terms with aging Bettie Jul 29 #31

One thing about getting older is less interest in what other people think Ritabert Jul 29 #4

I have a dear friend I've known almost 50 years. She and her sister were the two most attractive women Deuxcents Jul 29 #5

Wow that's a shame. Ritabert Jul 29 #6

It really is. The push to look the way the newest trend is has been a big marketing blow to many people Deuxcents Jul 29 #10

And permanent eyeliner and lip liner are a real mistake Ritabert Jul 29 #37

The comments I read regarding women not coloring their hair anymore is so frustrating and sad oregonjen Jul 29 #7

That's terrible that support groups are needed senseandsensibility Jul 29 #8

Let's apply positives, let's call women distinguished. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Jul 29 #13

I've always had very dark hair Bettie Jul 29 #16

I think mid stage looks so cool! oregonjen Jul 29 #18

I occasionally use a temporary color Bettie Jul 29 #21

I gave it up due to maintenance on the roots Ritabert Jul 29 #38

Me too Unwind Your Mind Jul 29 #46

Wow. You lucked out. Ritabert Jul 30 #63

I stopped coloring my hair during Covid Mossfern Jul 29 #45

Same here. My hairdresser was terrific & I went to her for about 35 years. Great auburn color... Hekate Jul 30 #61

About the eye thing ..... Mossfern Jul 30 #62

I stopped dying my hair in 2008, I thought if men can let their hair become gray MagickMuffin Jul 29 #22

Sometimes, I'm tempted to put "low lights" in my silver hair WhiteTara Jul 29 #34

I have the opposite problem BigmanPigman Jul 29 #43

Is it me? SocialDemocrat61 Jul 29 #11

Killing the spirit, at least partially, on such a large scale is, at least partially, a genocide of sorts. Bernardo de La Paz Jul 29 #14

The pressure to be very thin is also Bettie Jul 29 #25

Very true SocialDemocrat61 Jul 29 #51

don't care for the word genocide here Skittles Jul 29 #12

To pushback a bit, it's the societal pressure that women face to look as young as possible oregonjen Jul 29 #17

well I guess that pressure never worked on me and many others Skittles Jul 29 #20

It's everywhere in the media oregonjen Jul 29 #23

no one says you have to pay attention to it Skittles Jul 29 #26

Of course, you're right, I'm trying to teach my kids that. oregonjen Jul 29 #28

EXCELLENT Skittles Jul 29 #30

Probably because it's the wrong word. maxsolomon Jul 29 #49

Joan Rivers died during surgery Mossfern Jul 29 #52

Laryngoscopy I see maxsolomon Jul 29 #60

Women (and men) for as long as there have been women and men have obsessed over physical appearance ToxMarz Jul 29 #19

She says she means it's "disfigurement" -- in that case she should bloody well say so Hekate Jul 29 #24

There are procedures that are less invasive that may be better. To me, many woman celebs who get them look maybe twodogsbarking Jul 29 #27

There is a saying: you can either look old or look weird. Still I believe jrthin Jul 29 #33

What will be biologically possible in the future Johonny Jul 29 #35

Stealing "cosmeceutical industrial complex". I have long pointed out niyad Jul 29 #39

Recommended. H2O Man Jul 29 #41

I wore makeup occasionally in a very brief period as a new lawyer - Ms. Toad Jul 29 #44

I've thought Jamie Lee Curtis was beautiful... appmanga Jul 29 #48

I disagree with the use of the word Luciferous Jul 29 #50

I had to quit coloring my hair about 5yrs ago. I developed a very bad allergic Raine Jul 29 #54

I've had one plastic surgery procedure and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. 3catwoman3 Jul 29 #57