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In reply to the discussion: Are you autistic? I am. [View all]

slightlv

(6,614 posts)
23. Very insightful, hunter...
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 11:34 PM
Monday

thank you for relating your personal experience. I took a position working with an autistic child while I was an undergraduate. It was enlightening, terrifying at times for me (and I can imagine what it was like for her!)... but very telling for me. I graduated with my psych degree, but ended up going into technology when it was just a nascent career field, instead of psychology. The time I spent with my autistic charge, and my time spent at a State Hospital changed my mind on the career field. I learned I couldn't "leave it at the job"... and instead, took it to heart and back home with me. Eventually, sooner rather than later, it would have burned me out completely, and I recognized that fact early on, thank goodness.

My grandson, I suspect, is on the Spectrum. Very high functioning, still, I recognize behaviors and attitudes from my psych days. And I bless every day I'm with him.

What you said about your mother becoming a cold hard bitch to the doc... well, I don't blame her. It's the same thing we saw when they tried to figure out what caused childhood schizophrenia. I curse Bruno Bettelheim for his decades of damage and harm to mothers (and their children!).

I've honestly thought... with no validation to back me up, of course... that a lot of what we're seeing in fields of neurodiversity and other "situations" is environmental, mixed with genetic predisposition. For example, I've always believed my lupus and fibro were genetic predispositions that got kicked off by some aspect of our modern world... chemicals, genetic manipulation in foods, air/water qualities... etc. The fact that I, in addition to at least 7 other women in this one office I worked at all ended up coming down with autoimmune diseases only bolstered my belief there was *something* environmental that kicked it off. And going back through family histories on my Mom's side, I can see at least four generations that had the same symptoms.

The right wants what the right always wants: Black and White answers to questions that are inherently Gray. They just don't do nuance or subtlety... or rigorous research. They find a paper that says what they believe, and wallah! they've proven themselves to be experts. I just haven't figured out how they haven't all died out by now!

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Are you autistic? I am. [View all] hunter Monday OP
This was an excellent read and insightful. Thank you. chowder66 Monday #1
KNR and bookmarking. niyad Yesterday #66
Probably. canetoad Monday #2
Recommended. H2O Man Monday #3
DURec leftstreet Monday #4
Yes Timewas Monday #5
This is such a hateful, ignorant, regressive period in history... hlthe2b Monday #6
Thank you for sharing your story mr715 Monday #7
Thank you for writing this. milestogo Monday #8
Great post Wild blueberry Monday #9
Thank you mountain grammy Monday #10
I am, too, and I feel for you EnergizedLib Monday #11
Yes Oneironaut Monday #12
Hunter, thank you for sharing your experience Ilikepurple Monday #13
Thank you for this. yardwork Monday #14
K&R mvd Monday #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Prairie_Seagull Yesterday #50
I have Asperger's - my inability to read ppl led me to Psy. alittlelark Monday #16
I'm an Asp. ChazInAz Yesterday #55
How did you overcome writing "like an ESL student with a head injury?" Sogo Monday #17
I started college as an engineering major and switched to Biology... hunter Monday #22
I suspect I may be on the spectrum. area51 Monday #18
Thank you for every bit of that and sharing it here. Maru Kitteh Monday #19
The kids told me that I am on the spectrum. Grolph_ Monday #20
For what it's worth, I think your writing is excellent. 3Hotdogs Monday #21
Very insightful, hunter... slightlv Monday #23
Covid DID its best, for now. vanlassie Monday #24
Sharing your story and experience has done us all a real service. Thanks ❤️ MLAA Monday #25
Apparently me too. KentuckyWoman Monday #26
Sincerely thank you for this Sympthsical Monday #27
Excellent. Thanks. I'm definitely on several spectrums. Fortunate to have found my way. Need more for Silent Type Monday #28
I am not, but I love someone who is. FM123 Yesterday #29
Thank you posting proud patriot Yesterday #30
You write very well for someone who is 'autistic'. Jack Valentino Yesterday #31
RFK jr is a total dick and a nasty moron. Would be nice to go back a couple of years when I didn't know he existed. Dave Bowman Yesterday #32
In the end, we're all, each, a bag of tricks... BurnDoubt Yesterday #33
Yes. meadowlander Yesterday #34
Thank you for this, meadowlander Hekate Yesterday #37
I am impressed by your strength Easterncedar Yesterday #40
This description is so helpful Alice Kramden Yesterday #41
Thank you for posting this LetMyPeopleVote Yesterday #53
Thank you for sharing meadowlander Ilikepurple 22 hrs ago #71
Excellent post. markodochartaigh Yesterday #35
Thank you for teaching us, hunter. I remember the books that blamed "refrigerator mothers" Hekate Yesterday #36
I gather most of us are, to some extent Oeditpus Rex Yesterday #38
My experience is similar to yours Mossfern Yesterday #49
My mom had it both ways Oeditpus Rex 21 hrs ago #72
Thank you dearly, hunter, for sharing your experiences and perspective. It is laudable and helpful KitFox Yesterday #39
This is a wise and helpful thread Alice Kramden Yesterday #42
Raises hand. nt. druidity33 Yesterday #43
Autism Mr.Bee Yesterday #44
K&R spanone Yesterday #45
Yep!...along with most of my family... MiHale Yesterday #46
Thank you for sharing your story, hunter Clouds Passing Yesterday #47
Probably Lithos Yesterday #48
I put my parents through hell and I was completely oblivious to that. hunter Yesterday #59
Thank you for your story LetMyPeopleVote Yesterday #51
Pretty sure I am. no_hypocrisy Yesterday #52
High functioning autism is in our family, so I'm very familiar with it. I have a cousin whose parents didn't understand Martin68 Yesterday #54
Thank you for sharing your life here. You are a fantastic writer. 1WorldHope Yesterday #56
Thank you for posting--glad autism is being discussed now by people with lived experience. Timeflyer Yesterday #57
This sounds just like my son, but currently he only has a diagnosis of ADHD LT Barclay Yesterday #58
One of my kids is "on the spectrum" and now a successful adult. hunter Yesterday #60
Thanks anyway. LT Barclay 23 hrs ago #70
Post removed Post removed Yesterday #61
probably AllaN01Bear Yesterday #62
My daughter is. Pacifist Patriot Yesterday #63
There are strong upsides to having autistic friends PurgedVoter Yesterday #64
terribly functional so not considered. pansypoo53219 Yesterday #65
found out I was Aspie when I was about 67 or so..Now 77. LiberalArkie Yesterday #67
Thank you for your honesty -- your voice matters youssef5070 Yesterday #68
I think we are all born and live in our own world for as long as possible. Aussie105 23 hrs ago #69
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