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Dear_Prudence

(1,113 posts)
38. Double whammy for sure.
Fri Feb 6, 2026, 08:26 PM
Yesterday

The first time I had breast cancer, I relied on a book entitled "Just get me through this" and the second time I had bc, I relied on a book, "What the fuck just happened?" So, different advice helps at different times. Whatever works for you is ok. If you need support, keep asking until your needs are met. Some people will seem non-responsive; they might not have the bandwidth. My sister only called once during the first bout; I found out years later she was afraid her tears would discourage me. My brother never called, but I found out years later he wears a pink ribbon tee shirt on Fridays for me. So, some people can provide rides or meals or company; some, like my siblings, are sending 'good vibes.' Well, I am so sorry you are going thru this. You take care now.

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... 2naSalit Yesterday #1
I am sorry you have to go through this, my friend. HeartsCanHope Yesterday #2
thank you gopiscrap Yesterday #4
Healing vibes on the way to you. SheltieLover Yesterday #3
Sending love and hugs your way, Mike C.❤️ sheshe2 Yesterday #5
Sending healing energy Mike. FalloutShelter Yesterday #6
Sending prayers and good wishes your way. brer cat Yesterday #7
Both are usually curable Dave says Yesterday #8
That sounds like very encouraging information for anybody StarryNite 20 hrs ago #70
Sending Healing thoughts and energy to you- best wishes for quick treatment and recovery biophile Yesterday #9
I am so sorry. You stick close by and keep us informed. applegrove Yesterday #10
thank you gopiscrap 7 hrs ago #87
I had the female equivalent - stage three uterine cancer - three times. Staph Yesterday #11
thank you gopiscrap Yesterday #12
I wish I had more practical help or advice to offer senseandsensibility Yesterday #13
Sending you love and prayers...My husbands uncle had what you describe in his 70's 80's Demsrule86 Yesterday #14
🫶🏽 Mike C 🫶🏽 blm Yesterday #15
"" AllaN01Bear Yesterday #16
You have my prayer for a complete recovery from both. My only advice is to LoisB Yesterday #17
No advice, just holding you in my heart, Mike C. n/t TygrBright Yesterday #18
Best wishes and good vibes stage left Yesterday #19
Wow. Hugs to you. LittleGirl Yesterday #20
thank you gopiscrap 7 hrs ago #88
No comments or advice canetoad Yesterday #21
Wish you wellness Figarosmom Yesterday #22
I'm saddened to hear of your health problems. I am sending hugs and wish you a positive outcome. I don't alwaysinasnit Yesterday #23
Lots of love and healing vibes, dear gopiscrap Grim Chieftain Yesterday #24
Sorry for that news. 70sEraVet Yesterday #25
That sucks really bad jmbar2 Yesterday #26
I know someone who has had both LNM Yesterday #27
Damn malaise Yesterday #28
Nurture 🧡 Comfort 🩵 Healing 💚 to you gopiscrap Clouds Passing Yesterday #29
Sucks to read this. OAITW r.2.0 Yesterday #30
Hi Mike C.. All the best to you... mountain grammy Yesterday #31
You will win this fight. mr715 Yesterday #32
We're here berniesandersmittens Yesterday #33
I'm so sorry, Mike. iemanja Yesterday #34
I don't have any personal experience along those lines, Mike, but calimary Yesterday #35
Bladder twice Nigrum Cattus Yesterday #36
Sending hugs and healing energy. I'm so sorry you got this diagnosis, but cancer treatment is very highplainsdem Yesterday #37
Double whammy for sure. Dear_Prudence Yesterday #38
Half-way through treatment for Gleason Score 8/Stage II prostate cancer Bluejeans Yesterday #39
Caught it early, eh? Tranquil72 Yesterday #40
Sending a hug and wishing you all the very best. hamsterjill Yesterday #41
There is hope dawgdan Yesterday #42
Best wishes inbound! ... OldBoss Yesterday #43
Mike, I had a prostatectomy 15 years ago radical cystectomy 2 years ago TexLaProgressive Yesterday #44
I had Gleason 8 in 2025 bagimin Yesterday #45
I have Timewas Yesterday #46
I haven't, but my daughter went thru a Joinfortmill Yesterday #47
Dear gopiscrap, My husband had Maliginant Prostrate cancer. He always went to his Urologis a PSI test and a Prostate debm55 Yesterday #48
I am so sorry. Keep us posted. Cancer survivor here. DU Cancer Support Group is a great place for questions and venting Solly Mack Yesterday #49
Thinking of you and hoping for the absolute best! chowder66 Yesterday #50
Scary, Man.. Permanut Yesterday #51
Cancer x 2. Ms. Toad Yesterday #52
Adding my best wishes for you and the team that is gonna get you back to good health 🌺 Deuxcents Yesterday #53
I hope you are soon healthy again Mike, huge hugs. Celerity 23 hrs ago #54
Stage 3 survivor here....you got this purr-rat beauty 23 hrs ago #55
Wishing you a cancer free outcome. GoodRaisin 23 hrs ago #56
So sad to read this CountAllVotes 23 hrs ago #57
God Speed Mike C JMCKUSICK 23 hrs ago #58
Best wishes for successful treatment! waterwatcher123 23 hrs ago #59
Sorry to hear this news JohnnyLib2 23 hrs ago #60
A gentle hug 🫂 to you and your family. mwmisses4289 23 hrs ago #61
Wishing you all the best!!! CaptainTruth 23 hrs ago #62
Prayers for you Mike - TBF 23 hrs ago #63
My husband has stage four PC with metastases... DET 23 hrs ago #64
Sending you hugs and blessings Wicked Blue 22 hrs ago #65
Haven't been through this but know men who have had experience with both. Marie Marie 22 hrs ago #66
I identify Wifes husband 21 hrs ago #67
My mate had both róisín_dubh 20 hrs ago #68
Advice Roy Rolling 20 hrs ago #69
Here's to the Very Best Help & Support Cha 20 hrs ago #71
I'm a nurse. This is scary as hell I know, but you got this. Maru Kitteh 18 hrs ago #72
The Mayo Clinic and the Cleveland Clinic have good websites about cancers along with the American Cancer Botany 11 hrs ago #73
K&R spanone 11 hrs ago #74
These people are with you as I. twodogsbarking 11 hrs ago #75
Sending prayers and good wishes for you, your family and badhair77 11 hrs ago #76
I had prostate cancer about 15 years ago Playingmantis 11 hrs ago #77
Sending you healing vibes and wishes for complete recovery! CousinIT 11 hrs ago #78
You have my prayers and good wishes. CBHagman 10 hrs ago #79
Adding my wishes to you for a fast and full recovery. herding cats 10 hrs ago #80
What awful health news! pandr32 9 hrs ago #81
Positive vibes headed your way. We're here for anything you need. Nevilledog 9 hrs ago #82
Best wishes, gopiscrap! I was diagnosed with stage 4B (out of 5!) prostate cancer in early 2014. generalbetrayus 9 hrs ago #83
Wishing you the best flamingdem 9 hrs ago #84
Hi Mike, I imagine you are in shock. 1WorldHope 8 hrs ago #85
Wishing you a sucessful and complete recovery! electric_blue68 7 hrs ago #86
Sending positive vibes and prayers... Desert grandma 7 hrs ago #89
I have been fighting bladder cancer for a couple years now. SidneyR 7 hrs ago #90
Very sorry to hear. That really sucks. I hope you get good care and can arrest both. Take care, ED Evolve Dammit 7 hrs ago #91
Hang in there...... popsdenver 6 hrs ago #92
I had my prostate out 23 years ago A-Schwarzenegger 4 hrs ago #93
You asked for advice mercuryblues 3 hrs ago #94
This is really good advice re tracking - TBF 2 hrs ago #95
I highly recommend a daily pill container. mercuryblues 25 min ago #96
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