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LeftInTX

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35. I had three kids:

Sat Mar 14, 2026, 04:27 PM

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1986: High Forceps (wish I would have given up and done the C-Sect. I think there was some mild brain damage. There were some decels and I was on O2. Son had really bad ADHD)

1990: All natural, except oral antibiotics for Group B vaginal strep.

1992: On oral antibiotics for the above again. Also on IV antibiotics for Group B strep during labor. (I was in the hospital for about two hours before I delivered) He broke my water just before I started pushing and did the episotmy afterward. (I knew he was gonna do this all in advance) I wanted all natural, but my doc with second delivery wasn't on my plan. No L&D complications.

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They Didn't Want to Have C-Sections. A Judge Would Decide How They Gave Birth. [View all] WhiskeyGrinder Saturday OP

a 3 hr hearing when she is in ACTIVE LABOR??!!!! mopinko Saturday #1

Wow. That is appalling. The child is more important than the woman, no matter what. Biophilic Saturday #2

Extreme situation. But perhaps it was the safest option for woman and child. paleotn Saturday #4

What's extreme about this situation is forcing someone who's in active labor into a court hearing to establish legally WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #5

What about dying makes it unacceptable? paleotn Saturday #6

People make medical decisions that result in their own deaths all the time. WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #7

And that's perfectly fine with me. paleotn Saturday #37

You're reccing your own posts? Crunchy Frog Yesterday #67

So what. I didn't rec if 4 TIMES paleotn Yesterday #76

Exhibit A: all those Jehovah's Witnesses who refuse blood transfusions for themselves OR their children. ShazzieB Saturday #39

The pregnant woman's profession was assisting women to deliver safely....got it? Hope22 Saturday #9

Exactly what part of viable, at term, and in fetal distress do you not fucking understand? paleotn Saturday #38

Your last sentence... GenThePerservering Saturday #42

Tell that to the person who I responded to, not me. paleotn Saturday #43

The hearing was three hours long. Quiet Em Saturday #46

She was in labor for 12 freaking hours!!!!!! paleotn Saturday #47

and? Quiet Em Saturday #48

And? An obstetrics team is going to go to all that trouble unless it's for a good reason? paleotn Saturday #57

No, I'm not an OB-GYN and neither are you. Quiet Em Saturday #59

SO WHAT!? paleotn Yesterday #75

You seem to believe you know a lot Quiet Em Yesterday #77

And you know that how? paleotn Yesterday #78

What crap has your partner seen many, many times? Quiet Em Yesterday #79

Fine. You don't want trained, profession opinion, go treat yourself. paleotn Yesterday #80

Why are you so hostile? Quiet Em Yesterday #81

Ah, you're being omniscient again. paleotn Yesterday #82

My son was born after 30 hrs. of labor. Whats your point? Lochloosa Saturday #50

Medical professionals didn't go to this extreme unless there was good reason. paleotn Saturday #56

12 hours of labor is NOT. VERY. LONG. Crunchy Frog Yesterday #68

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The woman stated she had already had a life threatening complication from a C Section. Hope22 Saturday #61

Yes, I'm willing to sacrifice the lives of some full term fetuses to protect women's rights to bodily autonomy. Crunchy Frog Yesterday #66

It was the woman's profession, but in her own case she was not making the safest decision karynnj Saturday #44

3 prior c-sections Freddie Saturday #53

Completely agree karynnj Saturday #54

My first was a C-section buzzycrumbhunger Saturday #58

If ONLY the decision was based on the health and welfare of the mother... the existing slightlv Saturday #45

The patient in question is a doula. usedtobedemgurl Saturday #49

Because she's a doula doesn't mean she is a good doula. ToxMarz Saturday #51

Sure. Of course a judge knows better. Ok. usedtobedemgurl Yesterday #62

No, I am not saying that ToxMarz Yesterday #74

Ok usedtobedemgurl Yesterday #83

I worked in that field. When you're in the hospital, you don't have a choice. LeftInTX Saturday #20

It's not as rare as people think, and it doesn't matter if someone thinks it's "safest". Crunchy Frog Yesterday #65

only the fetus stage Kali Saturday #8

Yup, the kid is on his or her own. Biophilic Saturday #19

It seems to me... GiqueCee Saturday #34

... Solly Mack Saturday #3

Whose body is it? dlk Saturday #10

In states like Florida, the state has control over a woman's body erronis Saturday #11

It's not just Florida. In almost 30 states, hospitals can override the advance directives of pregnant people. WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #14

Darwin's body. paleotn Saturday #36

Jeezus. If men gave birth, this would not be a thing. Joinfortmill Saturday #12

Eh, men do give birth and it still is a thing, but likely because of the discrimination trans men face. WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #13

I've had four c-sections Mossfern Saturday #15

I'm so glad you and your babies survived these! erronis Saturday #17

Thank you for this thoughtful post. LisaM Saturday #21

I think the trauma Mossfern Saturday #24

I was a nurse in newborn. LeftInTX Saturday #23

I was surprised to learn episiotomies aren't recommended anymore Sympthsical Saturday #33

I had three kids: LeftInTX Saturday #35

Interesting. Thank you for sharing! Sympthsical Saturday #55

I have also had four c-sections. Bettie Yesterday #72

Beyond appalling. Mother first, unless both can be saved & the mother's wishes unclear (& she is hlthe2b Saturday #16

I was going to share this. Thank you so much for doing it! ... littlemissmartypants Saturday #18

Hands off women's wombs. perverts! GreenWave Saturday #22

Women of reproductive age need to get the hell out of Florida. This is absurd. Quiet Em Saturday #25

I see no reason for a judge to be called into this. Ilsa Saturday #26

If it's an emergency C-Sect, fetal distress, certain maternal conditions, unknown fetal conditions etc. LeftInTX Saturday #28

Oh, I know, I've been there. I was relieved when Ilsa Saturday #29

This message was self-deleted by its author MorbidButterflyTat Saturday #31

That sounds terrifying MorbidButterflyTat Saturday #32

I lived in a county that for a time had the highest Ilsa Saturday #27

Wondering... MorbidButterflyTat Saturday #30

I read the ProPublica article cksmithy Saturday #40

Glad I posted this thread. It's good to get a reminder about just how easily so many people are willing to sign away WhiskeyGrinder Saturday #41

3 prior c-sections are a HUGE risk. But, AllyCat Saturday #52

This story really bothered me so I did some more research Quiet Em Saturday #60

This is like Rosemary's baby! C Moon Yesterday #63

This is absolutely disgusting. Under no circumstances should women ever be robbed of the right to Crunchy Frog Yesterday #64

Interesting to see how much anti-choice sentiment there really is here on DU. Article and the responses Crunchy Frog Yesterday #69

Agree. WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #71

OMG 😳 this is insane. The hospital was so wrong in this. If it was me I would be so furious what they did TommieMommy Yesterday #70