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TNNurse

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Sun Jun 21, 2026, 06:31 PM Jun 21

I am going to start [View all]

but this is going to take awhile and I will need to update.

I am 76, my sister is 82. She is a retired professor of English specializing in Southern Literature. She has lived alone her adult life. She has never been more physically active than normal daily life. When she retired she moved to be close to my husband and me. We have a brother but he lives on Vancouver Island and has some health issues. We live in East TN.

Several months ago, I became aware that she was not paying her bills, not even opening her mail. I was already POA so I plowed through piles of paperwork to learn her finances. It was a lot. Put many bills on autopay and then learned about insurance and investments.

I took her car keys and she did not complain. I sent my POA paperwork everywhere needed.

I now pay her bills, monitor her investments and worry. I will say, she is financially secure. I do not worry about money.

Money has lost its meaning to her. She is content for me to handle everything.

On Memorial Day, she fell and broke her hip. She went to rehab and is now in assisted living they were generous to accept her, she is not independent enough. She has a caregiver who has been helping and will continue.

I sign paperwork, I make decisions. I am managing her life as well as that of my husband and mine.

This is a lot of work. I recommend people learn about someone's life before they are required to learn it quickly.

I jokingly said I would become a consultant. I could teach people what they need to know and do. I would charge $1000/ hr for this.

I now have to make sure her house and belongings are secure. It is something new every day.

stay tuned there will be updates. Thanks for listening.

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I am going to start [View all] TNNurse Jun 21 OP
You're a good sister malaise Jun 21 #1
Thanks, but there is no one else. TNNurse Jun 21 #2
I could tell you stories malaise Jun 21 #10
You are a real sister. I also helped my dear mom in older years and would do it again. Your post appalachiablue Monday #36
I second that emotion. yellow dahlia Jun 21 #3
Hey TNNurse, you're a good one to your loved ones. I hope that all turns out well, and wish all of you the best. SWBTATTReg Jun 21 #4
that is our job now HAB911 Jun 21 #5
Yeah, I am the baby in the family. TNNurse Jun 21 #9
Our baby sister died first malaise Jun 21 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author ForgedCrank Jun 21 #6
Wonderful malaise Jun 21 #19
We are each other's best friend.... MiHale Jun 21 #7
I have been there stage left Jun 21 #8
Just to add I would take care of my sister without question, stage left Jun 21 #12
gentle hug 🫂 to you and your family. mwmisses4289 Jun 21 #11
Hugs to you MerryBlooms Jun 21 #14
Oh, my, that is rough. TNNurse Jun 21 #21
Yeah, my sis that comes a couple times a week MerryBlooms Jun 21 #25
Thank you JMCKUSICK Jun 21 #15
peace PJMcK Jun 21 #16
Really just telling you this to let you know if you find yourself TNNurse Jun 21 #17
Good luck TNN BeneteauBum Jun 21 #18
Dear TNNurse I'm so sorry you are going through this FakeNoose Jun 21 #20
The big message here is that we old folks need to come to malaise Jun 21 #22
Yes absolutely FakeNoose Jun 21 #24
Hang in there. You're in our thoughts!.... paleotn Jun 21 #23
That is a lot of work. My sister does that in our family. applegrove Monday #26
I am so sorry you are both having this experience. It sounds so difficult. My friend wrote a workbook to help mahina Monday #27
Thanks for sharing that mahina TNNurse Monday #28
You are a good person and sister. She is fortunate to have you in her life. Fla Dem Monday #29
No one knows the burden of a POA. WmChris Monday #30
You ARE a good sister. evolves Monday #31
Good work Wild blueberry Monday #32
Yeah. I had to take over my Moms Figarosmom Monday #33
My sister did this for our Aunt. pfitz59 Monday #34
I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties & challenges. CrispyQ Monday #35
Many of us are now doing things like this for our parents. Martin68 Monday #37
I want to first thank everyone for the kind words and support. TNNurse Tuesday #38
Fascinating and informative. You are a good soul Joinfortmill Wednesday #39
🥰 ♥️ 🥰 you're an Angel is right, whew.........I'd pay $1000.00 for your help. a kennedy Wednesday #40
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