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FakeNoose

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20. Dear TNNurse I'm so sorry you are going through this
Sun Jun 21, 2026, 08:31 PM
Jun 21

We had a similar situation in my family, except for the fact that I'm the oldest of 9. So there are siblings to share the burden in my family. I'm 75 (oldest) and my next sister in line was diagnosed with fronto-temporal dementia when she was only in her mid- 40's. Her husband divorced her and gave her the house but not the kids, so she was on her own. This happened about 30 years ago, and my #2 sister was unable to take care of herself. Finances weren't an issue because her ex-husband still paid her support (even though it wasn't legally required). Long story short, my #3 sister gave up her job and social life in Pittsburgh, moved to New Jersey, and became the fulltime caregiver for the #2 sister. The other sibs tried to help out of course, but my #3 sister took on a huge responsibility. She's the only saint in our family, and every family needs a saint. May God bless you and keep you strong and healthy.

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I am going to start [View all] TNNurse Jun 21 OP
You're a good sister malaise Jun 21 #1
Thanks, but there is no one else. TNNurse Jun 21 #2
I could tell you stories malaise Jun 21 #10
You are a real sister. I also helped my dear mom in older years and would do it again. Your post appalachiablue Monday #36
I second that emotion. yellow dahlia Jun 21 #3
Hey TNNurse, you're a good one to your loved ones. I hope that all turns out well, and wish all of you the best. SWBTATTReg Jun 21 #4
that is our job now HAB911 Jun 21 #5
Yeah, I am the baby in the family. TNNurse Jun 21 #9
Our baby sister died first malaise Jun 21 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author ForgedCrank Jun 21 #6
Wonderful malaise Jun 21 #19
We are each other's best friend.... MiHale Jun 21 #7
I have been there stage left Jun 21 #8
Just to add I would take care of my sister without question, stage left Jun 21 #12
gentle hug 🫂 to you and your family. mwmisses4289 Jun 21 #11
Hugs to you MerryBlooms Jun 21 #14
Oh, my, that is rough. TNNurse Jun 21 #21
Yeah, my sis that comes a couple times a week MerryBlooms Jun 21 #25
Thank you JMCKUSICK Jun 21 #15
peace PJMcK Jun 21 #16
Really just telling you this to let you know if you find yourself TNNurse Jun 21 #17
Good luck TNN BeneteauBum Jun 21 #18
Dear TNNurse I'm so sorry you are going through this FakeNoose Jun 21 #20
The big message here is that we old folks need to come to malaise Jun 21 #22
Yes absolutely FakeNoose Jun 21 #24
Hang in there. You're in our thoughts!.... paleotn Jun 21 #23
That is a lot of work. My sister does that in our family. applegrove Monday #26
I am so sorry you are both having this experience. It sounds so difficult. My friend wrote a workbook to help mahina Monday #27
Thanks for sharing that mahina TNNurse Monday #28
You are a good person and sister. She is fortunate to have you in her life. Fla Dem Monday #29
No one knows the burden of a POA. WmChris Monday #30
You ARE a good sister. evolves Monday #31
Good work Wild blueberry Monday #32
Yeah. I had to take over my Moms Figarosmom Monday #33
My sister did this for our Aunt. pfitz59 Monday #34
I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties & challenges. CrispyQ Monday #35
Many of us are now doing things like this for our parents. Martin68 Monday #37
I want to first thank everyone for the kind words and support. TNNurse Tuesday #38
Fascinating and informative. You are a good soul Joinfortmill Wednesday #39
🥰 ♥️ 🥰 you're an Angel is right, whew.........I'd pay $1000.00 for your help. a kennedy Wednesday #40
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