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QueerDuck

(1,695 posts)
16. When such great care is taken to split hairs to justify misgendering ...
Mon Mar 30, 2026, 10:51 AM
21 hrs ago

... or the use of slurs, it only highlights the fundamental problem with the position itself. The etymology or 'subtlety' of a term doesn't change the intent or the result --- it remains a distinction without a difference.

We have seen this exact type of hair-splitting used historically to defend other offensive terms, like 'uppity,' as a way to avoid more obvious slurs while keeping the same harmful implication.

I value an inclusive environment where basic respect for identity isn't a matter of debate. This line of reasoning doesn't align with that, so I’m done with this exchange.

Have a nice day.

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Newsom is developing a pattern TommyT139 Yesterday #1
How is calling Graham a "diva" homophobic? Irish_Dem Yesterday #2
Say what you want, of course. TommyT139 Yesterday #5
It's a term meant for a woman, not a man Polybius 10 hrs ago #25
I have never encountered "diva" as a gay slur Miguelito Loveless 23 hrs ago #9
There you go! "Goddess" ... it's mis-gendering him and using it to denigrate him. QueerDuck 22 hrs ago #12
You went straight to the original meaning from the Italian Miguelito Loveless 21 hrs ago #14
When such great care is taken to split hairs to justify misgendering ... QueerDuck 21 hrs ago #16
IIRC - Mohammed Ali used the term "niggardly" on the Dick Cavett Show just to bring up a point. rubbersole 20 hrs ago #18
Do you want everyone to be nice to Lindsay Graham. He has been the greatest advocate of this war. Let's not offend him Doodley 9 hrs ago #28
One can oppose a war hawk without using bigoted language... QueerDuck 1 hr ago #31
Maybe he should have just posted a sternly worded message?!?! Bengus81 22 hrs ago #11
Sorry. I'm not buying the microaggession argument johnnyplankton 20 hrs ago #17
isn't there a rule around about sit flinging? SalamanderSleeps 10 hrs ago #26
Newsom is attacking a war mongering, Trump stooge. You seem to be attacking Newsom. Doodley 9 hrs ago #27
Good for Governor Newsom, Graham is a bit of a Diva as far as I can tell. wcmagumba Yesterday #3
Collecting his payoff. twodogsbarking Yesterday #4
"Why is an old man with no kids going to Disney?" Ray Bruns 23 hrs ago #6
searching poozwah 23 hrs ago #7
There are many people who go to Disney World without kids LetMyPeopleVote 22 hrs ago #13
There's some context others see here that you may be missing SpankMe 21 hrs ago #15
There are many persons without children who enjoy Disney. LetMyPeopleVote 19 hrs ago #22
With respect, it's not my own characterization SpankMe 10 hrs ago #24
The difference is Graham is a creep. Would you trust him with your kids? Doodley 9 hrs ago #29
Graham's excuse sounds about as believeable as the one given by Cancun Cruz a few years back rpannier 23 hrs ago #8
I would like to see him grilled, like a hamberder, well done. twodogsbarking 23 hrs ago #10
Disney Ad Campaign Parody 2na fisherman 20 hrs ago #19
He's eating at a restaurant called Chef Mickey's chernabogg 19 hrs ago #20
He is a disgrace to mankind. Just like his hero. nt City Lights 19 hrs ago #21
WTF! Buddyzbuddy 17 hrs ago #23
When you're telling your constituents to send their sons & daughters to fight in Iran dflprincess 8 hrs ago #30
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