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Ilsa

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48. I would be proud to have you for a son.

Reply to LuckyCharms (Original post)

Wed Dec 10, 2025, 11:18 AM

Dec 10

You respected and honored and loved your mother. Your siblings set a poor example for their kids, IMO.

This compassion you showed your mom puts a lot of good in the world. Her professional caregivers would have certainly noticed.

I lost a friend over this sort of thing. She criticized me for looking after my MIL when she was recovering from a hysterectomy. She criticized me for agreeing with my husband that he and I were the only ones who could manage her care after dementia became her diagnosis. Her lack of compassion towards her own mentally ill mother years earlier was a warning sign for me. She wasn't required to care for her; she simply wouldn't visit her or attend her funeral. I couldn't handle her berating me for trying to do the right thiing.

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I was in my early 50s when my mom passed. [View all] LuckyCharms Dec 9 OP

Each of our stories have wisdom for the rest of us. Thank you for sharing. Biophilic Dec 9 #1

You did good. Nothing more important in life than taking care of your parents, except for raising a child. applegrove Dec 9 #2

Seeing your parent safely through their live is important too IbogaProject Dec 9 #20

You were a wonderful son. greatauntoftriplets Dec 9 #3

I know how you feel, my mom died when I was 39 Walleye Dec 9 #4

An honor to read your post. Attilatheblond Dec 9 #5

it is an honor markie Dec 9 #6

You were a loving and responsible son, Lucky. brer cat Dec 9 #7

Okay, now I have tears in my eyes PatSeg Dec 9 #8

Thank you for sharing this. It helped me today. n/t TygrBright Dec 9 #9

Sounds as if you were an incredibly good son, Lucky peggysue2 Dec 9 #10

Lucky... Niagara Dec 9 #11

Thank you , Lucky Charms. You are a great person. May the memories of your mom be a blessing to you. debm55 Dec 9 #12

Please don't be hard on yourself. You were an amazing son to your mom. If you put everything you did for your mom chia Dec 9 #13

You are a very good person, Lucky sheshe2 Dec 9 #14

Thank you for sharing your story Lucky FemDemERA Dec 9 #15

Lucky, your mom was an amazing person and you are also. TommieMommy Dec 9 #16

I'm sobbing now mountain grammy Dec 9 #17

"1) People leave you when you are at your weakest. They just...fucking desert you. How do your siblings, or anyone Clouds Passing Dec 9 #18

I should be so lucky to have my sons turn out like you. flying_wahini Dec 9 #19

You and your Mom did good LuckyCharms. c-rational Dec 9 #21

I can relate to your story. multigraincracker Dec 9 #22

Thank you so much for sharing these important and painful memories with us LuckyCharms. JMCKUSICK Dec 9 #23

Thank you, LuckyCharms, for sharing your stories with us. HeartsCanHope Dec 9 #24

She forgives you, I'm very sure. mahina Dec 9 #25

gentle hug 🫂 to you mwmisses4289 Dec 9 #26

I lost my mom three months ago BeyondGeography Dec 9 #27

Lucky, you gave your mom something money can't buy: loyalty & devotion. SheltieLover Dec 9 #28

What a beautiful, human story LuckyCharms. To read it was both heart-warming and heart-rending. Thanks back to you KPN Dec 9 #29

Cathartic. cachukis Dec 9 #30

You have brothers and sisters you haven't met yet. Harker Dec 9 #31

That hit me like an arrow to the heart. I'm currently caring for my disabled husband while still Ziggysmom Dec 9 #32

I see a lot of me in your story skydive forever Dec 9 #33

Please watch a youtube video, They look human but they have no soul. Karadeniz Dec 9 #34

You did more than you know. mercuryblues Dec 9 #35

Thanks for the post. ificandream Dec 9 #36

She knew what you were doing Lucky, and she embraced YOU. Maru Kitteh Dec 9 #37

... Solly Mack Dec 9 #38

Love in its brightest, most powerful form. lostnfound Dec 9 #39

Pretty close to late sixties here, too. hamsterjill Dec 9 #40

Thank you for that wonderful story jcboon Dec 9 #41

You're a good egg róisín_dubh Dec 10 #42

The moon must be in one of those phases BaronChocula Dec 10 #43

I'll bet if your mom could post here in the Lounge, True Dough Dec 10 #44

''The world breaks everyone and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.'' Donkees Dec 10 #45

Two things are clear... Trueblue Texan Dec 10 #46

You have me in tears malaise Dec 10 #47

I would be proud to have you for a son. Ilsa Dec 10 #48

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