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JMCKUSICK

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18. Very well said Debbie,

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Tue Dec 30, 2025, 05:29 AM

Dec 30

Bad people are bad people. If they have family as part of their identity, it doesn't make them less bad nor you more obligated to take their abuse.
You get to choose the people you let into your heart now.
Let rules to keep children safe be your guide as you practice these steps.
You have so much love here Debbie, and while the hugs don't quite feel the same, you weren't getting any from them anyway lol.
May you find the strength to follow through and the peace of mind to know you're right.
Love you, John

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I have to be honest with you folks. ------------------ [View all] debm55 Dec 29 OP

... SheltieLover Dec 29 #1

Good. Stay away from toxic people. "I love you....not" - Jesus wept! LoisB Dec 29 #2

Listen to me Deb... LuckyCharms Dec 29 #3

This is great advice, Deb, and Lucky Charms is being about as honest and kind as anyone could ask for. Deuxcents Dec 29 #4

Great advice. And to add - your first priority is Rich. He loves you and cares about you but is also ill question everything Dec 29 #6

This -- these . fierywoman Dec 30 #13

I still don't know how you emerged from all that... buzzycrumbhunger Dec 29 #5

I'm not sure how Debbie emerged from this abuse alive Niagara Dec 30 #20

Thank you Niagara. You were one that helped me. I thank you friend. I had a meeting with my new therapist yesterday. How debm55 Dec 30 #21

I don't like seeing people hurting, Debbie Niagara Dec 30 #22

I tried to make myself scarce in the steel mill town. When we moved to the suburbs, it got worse.My parents were very debm55 Dec 30 #23

I understand, deb True Dough Dec 29 #7

Hang in there Deb you're loved on DU kimbutgar Dec 29 #8

How awful iemanja Dec 29 #9

Stay strong. We love you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Dec 30 #10

Do not send those people any more money - TBF Dec 30 #11

Babe hugshugs hugs irisblue Dec 30 #12

I am so sorry Tree Lady Dec 30 #14

Hugs and more hugs. summer_in_TX Dec 30 #15

debm55 -- I saw your lead line and had to read your post. Thank You for your pure honesty. George McGovern Dec 30 #16

Cyber-hugs, deb. Dear_Prudence Dec 30 #17

Very well said Debbie, JMCKUSICK Dec 30 #18

And the only person she ever loved was her mother, who had digitally abused me as a child (4-5 years) every Saturday debm55 Dec 30 #19

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