Husband and I are both in our mid 70s and have always been active, strong and capable of doing anything around the house that needed doing. Together we built one of those prefab sheds, I've laid flagstone with pebble accents, he's installed all of the new windows over the years, etc etc. But now we're both done in! Several years ago he started having serious heart problems and between the condition itself, all of the meds he's on and just being old now, he can no longer do more than the smallest project before he's tired out and has to stop. It demoralizes him terribly. I've seen him next to tears many times out of frustration.
I had back surgery last Summer because I couldn't stand for too long before the pain got too much. So now that's better but my knees are just about to give in. I try to cover for him so he doesn't get depressed, but it's tough. I've started looking for handyman help and I know he doesn't like it, I guess he feels like it's a reflection on him or his abilities. But it's the only way I can see to do the things that need doing here. We're lucky that at the moment we can afford to hire someone to help a little.
I'll send hugs and lots of sympathy to you both as I know what you're going through. You both want to help each other but man, it becomes harder and harder these days. The saying 'Getting old isn't for sissies' is no joke!!
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