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Martin Eden

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20. Same with me and my wife

Wed Jun 10, 2026, 10:53 AM

Jun 10

She will state or ask something totally out of context, using a generic word like "thing" or "it" instead of an identifying word.

This is compounded by my hearing loss, even with hearing aids. I often guess at what the hell she's talking about, almost always wrong.

When we're watching TV together we converse about the program, but she tends to speak at the same time as dialogue, then I can't understand either. She's much better at multi-tasking her attention, whereas I'm more narrowly focused.

I tend to tune out during commercials, reading a magazine or something on my phone. She will make a comment about a commercial, so it's totally out of context for me. Then I have to ask what she meant with her comment, or just ignore her.

She is not pleased with either.

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Different communication styles. [View all] LuckyCharms Jun 10 OP

I can relate to that EYESORE 9001 Jun 10 #1

Yep, I know what you are saying! LuckyCharms Jun 10 #2

And you know what I'm hearing EYESORE 9001 Jun 10 #7

Welcome to the world of aging with a good friend and lover! Joy and my arguments last about two minutes ... marble falls Jun 10 #3

I know what you mean Marthe48 Jun 10 #4

I think this happens a lot when you have a spouse from a different culture DFW Jun 10 #5

Love this! karin_sj Jun 10 #16

So it was you in the car in front of me. A couple throwing their arms around and the car swerving. erronis Jun 10 #6

My dh does this, and he was born and raised in the u.s. mwmisses4289 Jun 10 #8

Lucky, my husband and I some_of_us_are_sane Jun 10 #9

a sense of humor is not only important in relationships, mopinko Jun 10 #10

OMG! Seinan Sensei Jun 10 #11

Nouns Nasruddin Jun 10 #23

You sound True Dough Jun 10 #12

Love how the dialogue ended......BUT DID YOU TAKE CARE OF THAT THING????? Fla Dem Jun 10 #13

Well, did you take care of that thing or not? Bristlecone Jun 10 #14

A good marriage is conversational multitasking best practiced with laughter. NNadir Jun 10 #15

Happens to us all the time karin_sj Jun 10 #17

Well? Did you take care of that thing? StarryNite Jun 10 #18

I have some female friends I do that with. murielm99 Jun 10 #19

Same with me and my wife Martin Eden Jun 10 #20

Sounds a bit like what my Dad and I called talking crooked EverHopeful Jun 10 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author Nasruddin Jun 10 #22

My husband frequently does not finish sentences. 3catwoman3 Jun 10 #24