If women were the ones EXPECTED FROM BIRTH to be wage slaves...

[MadrasT]

16. For me, there is another problem with traditional gender roles.

What happens when they just don't match who you are? It creates a life experience where you always feel like an outsider or as if you are defective.

I am a nongendered (or third-gendered) person and traditional gender roles alienate me because they do not apply to me. (I am transgender but not the kind of "transgender" people usually think about when they hear the term. I am sometimes envious of transgender people who know they are man or woman, even when it is different from their bodies, because at least they are "something". In modern 21st century US of A, I am "none of the above". But then I do "pass" as a woman because I have a female body, so I fly under the radar unless I choose to identify myself to someone as "not woman".)

I guess many people embrace gender roles because they line up with their identities so they don't see a problem. That is not the case for me, so it is a sore spot for me.

If the whole world has expectations of you, and makes assumptions about you, because you have female parts, and your identity is not "woman", it gets really tedious and isolating.

(Not arguing, just explaining it from my eyes.)