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ShazzieB

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9. I agree with Clouds Passing.

Wed Apr 9, 2025, 07:43 PM

Apr 2025

You did not deserve that at all, BlueKota.

I don't think parents realize how deeply they can hurt us without moaning to. I've written about my mother elsewhere on this thread. There were things she said and did that had a lasting negative impact on me that I know she was completely unaware of. I never really tried to talk to her about those things, but I'm she would have been very upset to know just how much harm she did (albeit completely unwittingly).

I've often wondered myself what I may have said and done that affected my daughter in ways I wasn't aware of. I need to get up the courage to ask her one of these days.

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 2025 OP

Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 2025 #1

Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 2025 #4

My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 2025 #2

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #5

You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #3

Thank you! BlueKota Apr 2025 #6

I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #9

I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 2025 #13

It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #16

My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #7

I feel you, FirstLight Apr 2025 #11

It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 2025 #14

I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #8

Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 2025 #12

BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #15

We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #17

That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 2025 #20

I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #21

Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #18

So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 2025 #10

There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 2025 #19

When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 2025 #22

It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 2025 #23