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FirstLight

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10. So much of our parents is a product of their generation
Wed Apr 9, 2025, 07:53 PM
Apr 2025

And while the Gen Z kids can scream about people changing and not holding beliefs later in life, our parents generation were not really taught to look within and change their views.
I'm actually really glad that I've done this trauma work this winter after my parents had both passed. I had a wonderful relationship with them toward the end and they are definitely spiritual advisors now. But I'm able to separate what happened back then in a different way and therefore go back and heal it better. It sucks how much that trauma sticks with us not just from our parents but our teachers as well. I still have nightmares about my second grade teacher! Lol she never should have been working with children let's just put it that way...

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Discovery From My Past. [View all] BlueKota Apr 2025 OP
Forgiveness and forgetting are two separate things UpInArms Apr 2025 #1
Thank you so much! BlueKota Apr 2025 #4
My therapist talked to me about forgiveness synni Apr 2025 #2
Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #5
You didn't deserve that BluKota... Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #3
Thank you! BlueKota Apr 2025 #6
I agree with Clouds Passing. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #9
I think the mother daughter relationships BlueKota Apr 2025 #13
It takes years of trauma therapy to reach a point of feeling like we do deserve to be here Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #16
My mother blew hot and cold. ShazzieB Apr 2025 #7
I feel you, FirstLight Apr 2025 #11
It's hard when your family doesn't understand BlueKota Apr 2025 #14
I am sorry that you went through that. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #8
Mostly I said it that way BlueKota Apr 2025 #12
BlueKota, you write so well. UniqueUserName Apr 2025 #15
We are born this way. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #17
That, and each individual has different experiences and influences BlueKota Apr 2025 #20
I had to learn how to have my own back, no one else would. Clouds Passing Apr 2025 #21
Thank you. BlueKota Apr 2025 #18
So much of our parents is a product of their generation FirstLight Apr 2025 #10
There are definitely teachers who should have BlueKota Apr 2025 #19
When I read 'The Taming Of The Shrew' in the fifth grade, I thought it was written about my mother. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Apr 2025 #22
It's difficult when Mom's are like that. BlueKota Apr 2025 #23
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