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Parenting

Marthe48

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24. Wish and hope for a happy outcome

Reply to HopeHoops (Original post)

Fri Dec 24, 2021, 05:50 PM

Dec 2021

I have friends and relatives whose children are estranged for various reasons. Some of the kids carry resentment of bad parenting, some of the kids are trumpers and disconnected from people who aren't. I don't know why one child cut her parents out of her life. Whatever reasons there are rifts in those families, it hurts all of us who know that some people have the trimmings, but they don't have the real gifts. I offer comfort and avoid talking about my family plans with people who don't have the same. Why rub it in?

I hope that the families I know come to terms in ways that they can stand each other's company, regardless of the past or current relationships. Or else find surrogates who fill the voids.

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Frustrated Parents Support Thread - as in "How the HELL do I deal with this mess???" [View all] HopeHoops Feb 2012 OP

Okay. No posts. Nobody's frustrated with parenting? Let's wake up the group. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #1

I agree, parenting is tough. Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #2

It's not a ramble. If you say you know what to do, you're full of shit. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #3

So you have a few ladies you feel need an apology? Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #4

Not at the moment. When I'm wrong I admit it and deal with the apology then. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #5

I wasn't reffering to your daughters... Ruby Reason Mar 2012 #6

I'm still trying to track a few down. HopeHoops Mar 2012 #7

This message was self-deleted by its author Separation Oct 2012 #16

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2017 #22

Spam deleted by William769 (MIR Team) lovemehoney Mar 2012 #8

I just joined this group, along with three others. HelpmeHelp Aug 2012 #9

teenagers becoming adults... steve2470 Aug 2012 #10

I wasn't exactly a piece of cake on a plate with a scoop of ice cream. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #11

My 16 year old son is very easy, compared to many others steve2470 Aug 2012 #12

I was just freaked out when I told my mom I was stoned all to Jesus for ten years. HopeHoops Aug 2012 #13

Best wishes with your kids steve2470 Aug 2012 #14

Seriously, I'd say mine are easy. We set down solid rules early on and eventually didn't have... HopeHoops Aug 2012 #15

Help! Grandma raising 2 grandkids, 11 and 5 (birthdays in March). They've been with me 4-years now. txwhitedove Feb 2013 #17

Happy Spring! I am so grateful for this awesome support group, and can tell ya'll can't wait to txwhitedove Mar 2013 #18

Hi, I've never posted in here because Bettie Jun 2017 #19

It usually does get better. PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2017 #20

Thank you so much Bettie Jul 2017 #21

How about adult in-laws? Marthe48 Sep 2021 #23

Wish and hope for a happy outcome Marthe48 Dec 2021 #24