My husband passed away 1/26/17

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12. I'm very sorry for your loss.

My husband died 3 years ago, I had to throw people out of his room the last 2 weeks at his request because he had said what he wanted to & was disconnecting himself from life. I was in fragile control of my own emotions so was not as tactful as I could have been. I sent my daughter home & actually told my sister she shouldn't have driven 200 miles because he didn't want visitors. Everyone got over it.
1st I had to take care of him at the end, after he died I had to take care of myself & didn't want to talk all the time or have to answer how I was doing. I was crushed by grief, I knew I would go through it & come out the other side but I felt I needed to take care of my grief on my own terms.
Anyway I had to set limits. I kept track of myself as far as eating, sleeping,brushing my teeth & reached out when I had to but I didn't answer my phone whenever it rang. If that's what you have to do, it's OK.