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Bereavement

In reply to the discussion: My husband passed away 1/26/17 [View all]

Justice

(7,198 posts)
29. I am so sorry.
Fri Mar 3, 2017, 10:33 PM
Mar 2017

I have my dad who three years ago lost my mom after 55 years of marriage. In the first year, He sounded in many ways like you do in terms of what you know you need right now and how to tell other people what you need.

I think you be honest with your sister and others - reach out as you need to but let them know you need some time for yourself. You emotionally cannot be there for others if you don't take care of yourself -- and right now you are most important.

My husband passed away 1/26/17 [View all] Marthe48 Mar 2017 OP
Very Sorry! Chasstev365 Mar 2017 #1
Thank you Chasstev Marthe48 Mar 2017 #8
I'm so sorry for your loss. WhiteTara Mar 2017 #2
Thank you White Tara Marthe48 Mar 2017 #9
Anyway, just live in the moment Marthe48 Mar 2017 #23
Blessings to you! cilla4progress Mar 2017 #3
Thank you Cilla Marthe48 Mar 2017 #10
My wife of 31 years passed away GP6971 Mar 2017 #4
Thank you GP Marthe48 Mar 2017 #11
Your welcome GP6971 Mar 2017 #14
I'm sorry about your husband. As for your sister.... LisaM Mar 2017 #5
Thank you Lisa Marthe48 Mar 2017 #15
I agree with LisaM Skittles Mar 2017 #43
I am so very sorry for your loss luvMIdog Mar 2017 #6
Thank you luvMIdog Marthe48 Mar 2017 #17
My heart goes out to you at this time. It must be a huge adjustment and very painful! manicraven Mar 2017 #7
Thank you manicraven Marthe48 Mar 2017 #18
I'm very sorry for your loss. gwheezie Mar 2017 #12
Thank you gwheezie Marthe48 Mar 2017 #19
People mean well Rorey Mar 2017 #41
My sincerest sympathy, Marthe48 Useless in FL Mar 2017 #13
Thank you in FL Marthe48 Mar 2017 #20
I'm so sorry you're going through this Warpy Mar 2017 #16
Thank you, Warpy Marthe48 Mar 2017 #21
What Warpy said and all the others' insightful contributions. sprinkleeninow Mar 2017 #37
Thank you sprinkleeniow Marthe48 Mar 2017 #45
I wish you peace . Condolences lunasun Mar 2017 #22
Thank you lunasun Marthe48 Mar 2017 #24
Everyone stayed away from me when my husband died. We all did notdarkyet Mar 2017 #25
Thank you notdarkyet Marthe48 Mar 2017 #46
This thread has been so helpful cilla4progress Mar 2017 #26
I was on the DU Cancer Support subscription Marthe48 Mar 2017 #47
Just wonderful. cilla4progress Mar 2017 #62
So sad. You are just now climbing out of the depths of your loss elfin Mar 2017 #27
Thank you elfin Marthe48 Mar 2017 #48
You have my deepest sympathy, Marthe48 ailsagirl Mar 2017 #28
Thank you ailsagirl Marthe48 Mar 2017 #49
I am so sorry. Justice Mar 2017 #29
Hi Justice Marthe48 Mar 2017 #50
Sorry for your loss logosoco Mar 2017 #30
Thank you Marthe48 Mar 2017 #51
Sorry to hear of your loss bucolic_frolic Mar 2017 #31
I am so sorry for your loss. raging moderate Mar 2017 #32
... progressoid Mar 2017 #33
:) Marthe48 Mar 2017 #52
Sorry for your loss and I have a suggestion leftofcool Mar 2017 #34
Thank you leftofcool Marthe48 Mar 2017 #53
Truly sorry for your loss ATL Ebony Mar 2017 #35
Thank you ATL Ebony Marthe48 Mar 2017 #55
I am so sorry. murielm99 Mar 2017 #36
Sorry for your loss, Marthe48. democrank Mar 2017 #38
I am so sorry for your loss of your husband. Rorey Mar 2017 #39
Thank you Rorey Marthe48 Mar 2017 #54
Sorry for your loss KT2000 Mar 2017 #40
i am so sorry for your loss. barbtries Mar 2017 #42
Thank you barbtries Marthe48 Mar 2017 #58
My deepest condolences. ohheckyeah Mar 2017 #44
Thank you ohyeckyeah Marthe48 Mar 2017 #59
I am so sorry for your loss. jrthin Mar 2017 #56
Thank you jrthin Marthe48 Mar 2017 #60
May tomorrow's path to peace be more clearly marked and have fewer obstacles than today. IADEMO2004 Mar 2017 #57
Thank you IADEMO2004 Marthe48 Mar 2017 #61
Hugs to Martha48... Tikki Mar 2017 #63
Hi Tikki Marthe48 Mar 2017 #64
I'm sorry I missed this when you first posted. You have my sincere condolences. sinkingfeeling Apr 2017 #65
Thank you Marthe48 Apr 2017 #66
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