Bereavement

Squinch

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4. It's two steps forward and one step back for a long time.

Thu Apr 23, 2020, 08:59 AM

Apr 2020

The only advice I can give is that you should let the grief in when you can. Don't try to push past it or "bear up bravely" or anything like that. Right now you may only be able to let dribbles of it in, and that's OK. As time goes on you may be able to process a little more at a time.

Grief is like a jar of marbles. It is finite. You WILL feel better someday. And each time you process some of your grief you are taking a marble out of the jar. It is a very slow process but someday you WILL feel joy when you think of your mother, and you will feel joy at the new normal your life becomes without her.

I am keeping you in my heart.

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Gosh, guys [View all] boston bean Apr 2020 OP

I'm so sorry Ohiogal Apr 2020 #1

. Laelth Apr 2020 #2

So sorry, Boston Bean SheltieLover Apr 2020 #3

It's two steps forward and one step back for a long time. Squinch Apr 2020 #4

So sorry for your loss. lark Apr 2020 #5

It's only natural to feel this way mercuryblues Apr 2020 #6

I am sorry shenmue Apr 2020 #7

Hang in there and reach out when you feel a wish to. You'll get through Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #8

Several years ago I had a particularly difficult loss. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2020 #9

I completely understand MissMillie Jul 2020 #10

Oh MissMillie, my warmest, heartfelt condolences to you! boston bean Jul 2020 #11

Well last week I called home and when my wife said hello I woke up. IADEMO2004 Aug 2020 #12