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Bereavement

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mercuryblues

(15,729 posts)
6. It's only natural to feel this way
Thu Apr 23, 2020, 09:22 AM
Apr 2020

You physically lost the 1 person who was always in your corner. She could heal a scraped knee with a kiss. Make your heartache ease with a hug. Her love was unconditional. When a job fell through, she is the 1st person to call. Even though she couldn't really fix things for you, the sound of her voice was comfort. You knew you weren't in it alone.

Now you think, because your mother isn't physically with you anymore that is gone. It's not. She gave you her wisdom and strength to carry on without her. Most importantly she has given you her love. By doing so she has shown you how to love. That love will never go away.

Feel your grief, your anger and your pain. She also showed you how to endure loss as profound as this.

Just know this, there will be a day whether in calm and quiet, or in a crowded room full of noise you will find a sense of peace and warmth, Savor it

it has been 10 years since my Mom died, those are the lessons I learned. I still talk to her. She may not be actually answering me back, but the lessons she taught me from birth gave me the tools to "know" what she would say if she were still here.

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Gosh, guys [View all] boston bean Apr 2020 OP
I'm so sorry Ohiogal Apr 2020 #1
. Laelth Apr 2020 #2
So sorry, Boston Bean SheltieLover Apr 2020 #3
It's two steps forward and one step back for a long time. Squinch Apr 2020 #4
So sorry for your loss. lark Apr 2020 #5
It's only natural to feel this way mercuryblues Apr 2020 #6
I am sorry shenmue Apr 2020 #7
Hang in there and reach out when you feel a wish to. You'll get through Bernardo de La Paz Apr 2020 #8
Several years ago I had a particularly difficult loss. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2020 #9
I completely understand MissMillie Jul 2020 #10
Oh MissMillie, my warmest, heartfelt condolences to you! boston bean Jul 2020 #11
Well last week I called home and when my wife said hello I woke up. IADEMO2004 Aug 2020 #12
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