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Bereavement

lostnfound

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5. As long as it wasn't a real nightmare, i think of such dreams as an incredible gift when time drops its hold over us

Reply to irisblue (Original post)

Sun May 4, 2025, 07:40 AM

May 4

I’m fully aware that dreams are the brain’s attempt to narrate the random PGO spikes of REM sleep, which activate groups of neurons old or new. Wrote a term paper on it in 1985.

But I’m also well aware that time is a very strange phenomenon in science, and that life is intricately beautiful the more we learn, and that we might well be 4-d beings just temporary delayed by a 3.5-d boundary.. Like 3-d printed objects, we feel ourselves being made solid one flat layer at a time.

And therefore, it is okay to imagine occasional visits really are a bit of their light getting through.

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Being a motherless daughter is one of the most difficult things to navigate. [View all] irisblue May 4 OP

I stayed with my mother until the end. no_hypocrisy May 4 #1

I held her left hand till much too young Dr Kelly called the official time of death. irisblue May 4 #17

I'm so sorry. Losing my Mom was the hardest thing in my life and I still miss her every day, LiberalLoner May 4 #2

Why not decide to celebrate her life today by doing things SheltieLover May 4 #3

I do this exact thing when It feels like I should. Prairie_Seagull May 4 #6

I do, too, and it does help. SheltieLover May 4 #15

I started a pot of the chicken soup she made us at least monthly a short while ago irisblue May 4 #18

I'm glad you are able to celebrate your time together in this way! SheltieLover May 4 #20

I'm 81 and still miss my mother. I use a lot of her recipes and always wish I could tell her about it or patricia92243 May 4 #4

As long as it wasn't a real nightmare, i think of such dreams as an incredible gift when time drops its hold over us lostnfound May 4 #5

We grieve together today. crim son May 4 #7

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I'm so sorry for your loss, irisblue. HeartsCanHope May 4 #8

Irisblue, you will never be motherless as long as your memories of her are kept alive in your mind. Buddyzbuddy May 4 #9

Make it a day to celebrate how she JMCKUSICK May 4 #10

My mom died at a young age, suddenly; by aneurysm. peacebuzzard May 4 #11

My mother died at 98 in 2021. I remember how lucky I felt Croney May 4 #12

You never stop missing her. mwmisses4289 May 4 #13

I lost my mother 32 years ago, which was only last week. Yesterday was my MiL's funerall ms liberty May 4 #14

One of my grandmothers died leaving 2 small daughters and 2 sons. My father was the oldest child at 7. Wonder Why May 4 #16

My mom is 87, often very insensitive, even downright Dark n Stormy Knight May 5 #21

You're so lucky to have a Mom you love. She was a good Mom. Clouds Passing May 5 #22

{hug} I miss mine, but the pain has lessened a lot over 17 yrs... electric_blue68 May 6 #23