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Bereavement

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cksmithy

(504 posts)
Mon Feb 2, 2026, 06:53 PM Feb 2026

My older sister died 20 years ago today. [View all]

Even though she was only four years older than me, she was more like my mother than my our real mother. She was my friend, my confident and always had time to talk to me. She had a very rough childhood (we both did), but she could make me laugh and we could cry together. I miss her so much. We saw The Beatles four times, twice in one day. She was only 59 when she died, complications from her MS medications. When new medications are available and they talk about side effects, including death, it is true. Her doctors said her brain cancer was directly related to her meds.

I just wanted to honor her. I have never started a discussion, always respond to other member's post, but my sister was a wonderful person who I miss and love everyday.

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Deepest condolences. SheltieLover Feb 2026 #1
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #8
Sending hugs on this sad anniversary date. May the livetohike Feb 2026 #2
Thank you cksmithy Feb 2026 #9
Wonderful tribute, thanks.. Permanut Feb 2026 #3
Thank you. I always think of my sister, especially when I hear Twist and Shout sung by the Beatles. cksmithy Feb 2026 #10
That's good for a smile every time. Permanut Feb 2026 #34
You have honored your sister's memory very well. brer cat Feb 2026 #4
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #11
I hear you KT2000 Feb 2026 #5
Yes we were. cksmithy Feb 2026 #7
"I just wanted to honor her." And so you have. 3catwoman3 Feb 2026 #6
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #12
Thank you for sharing this. It means so much delisen Feb 2026 #13
Thank you, she did bring warmth to me. I light a candle for her every year, a little warmth. cksmithy Feb 2026 #14
Thank you for this testimonial, cksmithy. calimary Feb 2026 #15
Thank you. She is definitely frolicking, she took her tap shoes with her. cksmithy Feb 2026 #27
Condolences. Your post was a lovely tribute and I believe your sister is smiling. Best. c-rational Feb 2026 #16
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #23
I am sorry for your loss. stage left Feb 2026 #17
Thank you. Yes she was. Second born, first daughter, she was a real mom to me and my three younger siblings. cksmithy Feb 2026 #24
I am so so sorry irisblue Feb 2026 #18
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #25
So sorry IbogaProject Feb 2026 #19
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #26
To beloved sisters! Wild blueberry Feb 2026 #20
Thank you. Her memory is a blessing I keep close to my heart. cksmithy Feb 2026 #28
Your beloved sister Clouds Passing Feb 2026 #21
Thank you. I light a candle for her every year too. cksmithy Feb 2026 #29
Reminded me of my older sister Jarqui Feb 2026 #22
Thank you. I don't think anybody could hear the Beatles at a Beatles concert, but it was fun and a wonderful memory. cksmithy Feb 2026 #30
I am sorry for your loss, but know, she'll always be with you, in heart and spirit. Fla Dem Feb 2026 #31
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #33
You were blessed to have a wonderful sister Grim Chieftain Feb 2026 #32
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #35
Sending you hugs and warm thoughts ❤️ MLAA Feb 2026 #36
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #43
I am sorry for your loss. It sounds as if she was a lovely big sister. The fact LoisB Feb 2026 #37
Dear cksmithy, I am so sorry for your loss. MIButterfly Feb 2026 #38
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #44
That is a beautiful tribute DeeDeeNY Feb 2026 #39
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #45
You were very lucky to have such a sister. She sounds amazing. applegrove Feb 2026 #40
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #46
Thank you Dear_Prudence Feb 2026 #41
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #47
Really beautiful tribute to your sister JudyM Feb 2026 #42
Thank you. cksmithy Feb 2026 #48
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