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Coping with Divorce or Separation

Rorey

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2. Do you feel comfortable notifying her?

Reply to Grasswire2 (Original post)

Fri Oct 11, 2019, 07:55 PM

Oct 2019

Really, though, maybe the notification should happen after he has died.

My first inclination, I regret to say, was that if I was hearing that my ex-husband (also a narcissist) was dying, I would not be sad. Anyway, I don't think I would be.

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What is the obligation to notify an ex that spouse is dying? [View all] Grasswire2 Oct 2019 OP

maybe leave it to his current wife unless u keep in touch with the 2nd one nt msongs Oct 2019 #1

Yes. enough Oct 2019 #4

Do you feel comfortable notifying her? Rorey Oct 2019 #2

Not my place to notify her. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #5

I see no reason why they'd notify ex-wives lettucebe Oct 2019 #3

Are you on good terms with wife 3? PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 2019 #6

wife three is a nice person. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #7

I could care less if my ex dies and I don't want him notified if something happens to me. blueinredohio Oct 2019 #8

My POV is Sherman A1 Oct 2019 #9

I would certainly want to know if my first husband, father of my children, were dying. #2? No. Shrike47 Oct 2019 #10

My two cents is that you have no obligation. Your hands are full supporting your children. emmaverybo Oct 2019 #11