Shy? Fake being not.

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http://lifehacker.com/how-i-got-over-being-shy-and-embraced-talking-to-people-1692295385
http://lifehacker.com/5937348/use-the-ford-technique-to-make-small-talk-easier



- Nobody really cares that much about you. If something humiliating happens to you, e.g. a flirt-attempt gone wrong, it will be forgotten within minutes. That is, if other people take notice at all.

- How to start a conversation:
1. Greetings.
2. Compliment. (optional)
3. Question.
Readily available topics are:
family/friends ("What brought you to this party?&quot
occupation ("So, what do you do for a living? What are you studying?&quot
recreation ("You know what? You have something of an artist about you. Your hobby is painting, right?"
"Do you come here regularly? I have a question: ...&quot

- Ask questions whose answers will lead to more questions.

- Stay perceptive and sharp. Don't miss clues that could lead to more topics.

- Practice. Exchange a few sentences with a random person.

- When flirting, don't worry about failure. You WILL get shot down a few times out of pure probability. Wait a few minutes, then move on.