Femme friendships

[WingDinger]

7. Speaking personally, I am both femme, and butch, at times

And would hate to be limited to only things either. In fact, I fought long and hard to allow myself that luxury. Sure I was butch, when I beat the many asses that would limit me to only butch. And, it seems there is some kind of gender enforcement, amongst gays, as you allude to exclusion of femmes, from butch circles. Is this not analogous to those pricks, that thought I should endure pain, till I acted the part they enforced?

The gender affectations of Gays etc, if they are ingrained, would seem to represent some kind of hormone soup, that we are enslaved to. Be we gay or straight. Or, they are helpful, in some capacity, for identification of potential mates, or safety. And chosen. I know why men choose macho. Not as sure why women would choose feminine. As tomboy is still and always has been acceptable.

Are gay etc gender approximations ingrained? Or adopted? Are they to still be useful, when noone gives a shit if you are gay? Or are they useful in some evolutionary, or societal way?