History of Feminism

KyleMcShades

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48. I never thought of it that way..

Fri Jul 11, 2014, 03:35 PM

Jul 2014

I've seen the term used before and always thought it was well intended. But I totally get what you mean. Thanks for clarifying for me. I'll be sure to denounce the term.

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Start calling out the term 'slut-shaming' [View all] redqueen Jul 2014 OP

Very good points! theHandpuppet Jul 2014 #1

Thanks! redqueen Jul 2014 #2

Agreed. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #10

Will do Half-Century Man Jul 2014 #3

Thank you! redqueen Jul 2014 #5

Unfortunately littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #11

Responding to both you, and redqueen Half-Century Man Jul 2014 #42

language is so important. anyone raising kids know this. that is why we as parents always seabeyond Jul 2014 #64

Welcome back! thucythucy Jul 2014 #78

hey thucythucy. seabeyond Jul 2014 #79

This message was self-deleted by its author cerveza_gratis Jul 2014 #51

look at you.... nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #65

hi half, you are da man. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #66

SEABEYOND! Half-Century Man Jul 2014 #71

ha.... seabeyond Jul 2014 #72

Hear, Hear! ReRe Jul 2014 #4

Yes people who call girls and women 'sluts' are engaging in misogyny. redqueen Jul 2014 #7

Agreed. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #9

True! ReRe Jul 2014 #14

Exactly, it is all they know. redqueen Jul 2014 #16

Agreed. nt littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #8

Language is dynamic. littlemissmartypants Jul 2014 #6

This stuff is insidious. redqueen Jul 2014 #12

gosh, all i have learned, am learning, will learn. right? nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #67

Thank you!! Peacetrain Jul 2014 #13

Thank you too! redqueen Jul 2014 #15

Great Observation ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #17

Thank you! redqueen Jul 2014 #18

What you said, 1SBM. riqster Jul 2014 #20

What's a better term to use for the slanderous activity in question? IronLionZion Jul 2014 #19

Misogyny. Demonizing women by attacking their sexuality (calling them 'sluts' OR 'prudes') redqueen Jul 2014 #21

I don't get it??? ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #23

I skimmed right over that turn of phrase redqueen Jul 2014 #30

You also raised another issue here - this idea of 'slut-shaming' is often used to silence criticism redqueen Jul 2014 #22

We need words to have a discussion IronLionZion Jul 2014 #31

That you don't understand how discussions are derailed and stifled.... redqueen Jul 2014 #32

I think you have more power here than you think. IronLionZion Jul 2014 #33

I know I have the power to call out misogynistic slurs, redqueen Jul 2014 #36

A couple of examples BainsBane Jul 2014 #60

An online conversation doesn't have to be derailed or stifled IronLionZion Jul 2014 #76

i have used the term also, harshly to one particular man that was all over a thread seabeyond Jul 2014 #80

that is the point. we are not discussing the mans sexuality in these terms of prude nor slut. seabeyond Jul 2014 #68

How about "shaming a woman for being a sexual human being?" Squinch Jul 2014 #38

Seems to me Android3.14 Jul 2014 #24

Then ... 1StrongBlackMan Jul 2014 #26

lol redqueen Jul 2014 #27

I guess you need to get out more. theHandpuppet Jul 2014 #29

Well then, clearly it isn't something you need to think about. Or comment on. As for the rest of Squinch Jul 2014 #39

It just seems like someone is worrying about a pair of dirty socks Android3.14 Jul 2014 #44

Ah, the 'more important things' tactic. redqueen Jul 2014 #47

So you are here to tell us that, when we say we don't want to be referred to as sluts, we are Squinch Jul 2014 #49

What? Android3.14 Jul 2014 #54

Gosh. So glad to know it's ok with you. Squinch Jul 2014 #56

well mercuryblues Jul 2014 #52

The way I understand it Android3.14 Jul 2014 #55

from your own keyboard mercuryblues Jul 2014 #58

Be careful android Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #59

Maybe Android3.14 Jul 2014 #61

Thanks for mansplaining. Tetris_Iguana Jul 2014 #62

let me clearly state why it is not a little thing but the foundation of all of our misogyny. seabeyond Jul 2014 #63

Absolutely BainsBane Jul 2014 #74

Yes, we hear that all the time BainsBane Jul 2014 #73

Are the people who can't spell going to understand what a Misogynist is? PADemD Jul 2014 #25

Education is the key. redqueen Jul 2014 #28

Some of my best friends are sluts 90-percent Jul 2014 #34

Why should women who enjoy sex be applauded? redqueen Jul 2014 #35

Enjoying sex is part of the human condition BainsBane Jul 2014 #75

Point of clarification: Maedhros Jul 2014 #37

I think you are right about the origin, but I also think Redqueen is right about the fact that it Squinch Jul 2014 #40

Exactly, it means the OPPOSITE of what the OP thinks it does Warpy Jul 2014 #41

NO, really, it doesn't. It's a bad choice of words. It is meant to say that women Squinch Jul 2014 #50

Imagine using any other bigoted slur in this way. redqueen Jul 2014 #43

The term appears to have been created by feminists to denounce the use of "slut" as a slur. Maedhros Jul 2014 #45

Yes, it wasn't intended to be misogynistic, redqueen Jul 2014 #46

you still have to have a slut to shame the shamer. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #69

I never thought of it that way.. KyleMcShades Jul 2014 #48

I'm sure most of the time it is well intended. redqueen Jul 2014 #53

I agree it should never be used about women, along with the other slurs against them or minorities. freshwest Jul 2014 #57

I think it was certainly a different time. redqueen Jul 2014 #82

I never heard it used as admiration or envy. Different time and place, maybe. I don't use it, freshwest Jul 2014 #86

Good call, I completely agree. mountain grammy Jul 2014 #70

Thanks mountain grammy. redqueen Jul 2014 #83

As always, redqueen, your OP is interesting and informative, thucythucy Jul 2014 #77

Wow thanks... redqueen Jul 2014 #84

your argument makes a lot of sense geek tragedy Jul 2014 #81

The problematic nature of the term is fairly obvious redqueen Jul 2014 #85

I agree. Sometimes people under the guise of reclaiming geek tragedy Jul 2014 #87