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UTUSN

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Mon Mar 30, 2026, 10:33 AM Mar 30

Need advice on coping with single-issue flamers spammers. [View all]

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I don't want to name the single-issue here because it will spur the couple of flamers to do their thing. Actually, I agree with them on the broader dangers of the subject phenomenon, but there is a moderate side where the main content is not pernicious, but it's all or nothing to the inquisitors. They spoil every innocuous thread, highjack it, flame, harass, and personally attack the posters.

When one of them, who has been well thought of for years, first went on the tirade in one of my posts, I first responded with the moderate explanations inside the public thread, but they kept up the tirade, then I asked politely and privately in a DM that they stop, which only got a LONG conversion type sermon on the topic, so I DMed that they STOP. No, they don't stop, ending with my having to subject myself to the embarrassment of posting it in the public thread. They don't stop.

I have never used the Ignore feature because, for me, it's better to know what's out there than not to know; knowledge is power. And I have tried to use the guideline SKINNER laid out, that we should attempt to negotiate to solve our interactional problems with one another - doesn't work with these. And I seldom use Alert, in this case hard to fit these one-issue things into category - Civility, Spam, Don't Divide Us, what?

Their one issue is *large* and worldwide and not fixable on an internet board by a few posters. The couple of flamers here no concept that they cannot convert (apart from the core agreement) everybody, and relentlessly do long, LONG tirades that will not be read, much less convert.

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Like the old saying goes... LuckyCharms Mar 30 #1
Yip, the no response has its message. The flamers go by the internet "rule" about the Last Word wins. UTUSN Mar 30 #11
LC, please see reply 18. highplainsdem Mar 30 #23
I was unfamiliar with the thread, highplainsdem, and was replying in generalities. LuckyCharms Mar 30 #46
If you use "ignore," you will not regret it, IMO! Why let a few people annoy you and get in your head? Doodley Mar 30 #2
Same experience here jmbar2 Mar 30 #3
Absolutely perfect, am saving it. Would like to post it to the flamers but it might be called a personal attack. UTUSN Mar 30 #7
It is a striking resemblance jmbar2 Mar 30 #10
Am going to post it in Lounge, crediting you, in order to get it into my Journal. Thanks! UTUSN Mar 30 #12
You may need to include a Trigger Warning for jmbar2 Mar 30 #13
That's what I thought too. FoxNewsSucks Mar 30 #34
My first impression of the WARREN resemblance was just the immediate impact of the face. UTUSN Mar 30 #36
There's definitely a facial resemblance FoxNewsSucks Mar 30 #38
Yeah, the vid is spoiled for me now, too. This highlights another flamer trait, UTUSN Mar 30 #44
The ignore button is your friend Fiendish Thingy Mar 30 #4
We provide tools to help with problems like this, but it's up to you to use them EarlG Mar 30 #5
Yip, my choices make it insoluble for me. UTUSN Mar 30 #9
Please see reply 18 to understand the thread UTUSN is complaining about others complaining about. highplainsdem Mar 30 #20
short of an alert (given they have actually demeaned or broken other rules) about your only alternative stopdiggin Mar 30 #6
Yip, doing that more than can like, reaping a pain in the gut and actual stress. Sometimes I dread UTUSN Mar 30 #8
As a big fan of the ignore function, I'll tell ypu how I manage it. NNadir Mar 30 #14
Excellent and very understanding points. Back when, during the early Ignore era, tried it on bad actors. UTUSN Mar 30 #15
That's the best part of an ignore list. Checking through it and realizing... NNadir Mar 30 #19
Yip, silently ignoring the stalking and lies until they expose themselves is satisfying when it happens. UTUSN Mar 30 #21
See reply 18 to understand the thread UTUSN is complaining about others commenting on. He was highplainsdem Mar 30 #22
Ok. I'm not going to get involved other than to say.. NNadir Mar 30 #25
I'm not going to ignore someone recommending an AI channel using illustrations of rape to advertise highplainsdem Mar 30 #30
Ok. I understand your postion, but to be perfectly clear I often... NNadir Mar 30 #35
Timely and relevant post. yorkster Mar 30 #16
Thanks for the understanding! - Insoluble because of my choices, but at least it's on record. UTUSN Mar 30 #17
UTUSN, you're apparently complaining about multiple people objecting to the lurid, non-historical content highplainsdem Mar 30 #18
And btw, if anyone here who's been sympathizing with UTUSN feels the replies he received in that highplainsdem Mar 30 #24
I use the Ignore feature because, for me, it's better not to know what's out there. mahatmakanejeeves Mar 30 #26
Yip, I use a kind of Ignore - skipping. It's always been irritating when posters feel obligated UTUSN Mar 30 #28
Please see reply 18 and let me know if you think I was wrong for objecting to the content of the highplainsdem Mar 30 #31
I ignore people like that to keep track of them. pwb Mar 30 #27
Thanks. It's consolation that karma sometimes makes itself known. UTUSN Mar 30 #29
Please see reply 18. UTUSN is unhappy that people objected to his reccing an AI channel with gross illos of rape, highplainsdem Mar 30 #33
I know how you feel about AI from Music Appreciation. pwb Mar 30 #37
"but there is a moderate side where the main content is not pernicious," WhiskeyGrinder Mar 30 #32
The thread UTUSN is upset about wasn't primarily a debate about AI, either. It was about the inaccurate highplainsdem Mar 30 #39
I also pushed back on the inaccuracies ("100 vikings vs 10,000 Mongols," come on) and I think it's important to WhiskeyGrinder Mar 30 #40
If what was posted was inaccurate then post an article or video with the correct info questionseverything Mar 30 #41
He was recommending an entire channel whose video thumbnails focused on rape, torture and highplainsdem Mar 30 #42
Your post I referenced said it was about the inaccuracy of the video questionseverything Mar 30 #43
I just scrolled past thumbnails of hundreds of YouTube videos about Khan. None of them showed Khan raping highplainsdem Mar 30 #45
Honestly you keep moving the goal posts questionseverything Mar 30 #50
I'm not moving the goalposts at all. This is the same objection I made when UTUSN posted about highplainsdem Mar 30 #52
Don't respond to them LearnedHand Mar 30 #47
Thanks much. UTUSN Mar 30 #48
IGNORE IS YOUR FRIEND MY FRIEND Skittles Mar 30 #49
Block them using the ignore feature. n/t FSogol Mar 30 #51
This message was self-deleted by its author EarlG Mar 30 #53
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