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lettucebe

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17. If accounts were closed where did the money go?
Fri Apr 26, 2019, 10:36 PM
Apr 2019

That's pretty awful behavior but yes, death brings out the fangs.

Anyone can contest a will. It will cost money to hire lawyers but there's no chance a contest would prevail if there are three heirs and the estate is set to be settled evenly. There is simply no legal basis -- your sisters are already in the will, and a false claim against you isn't going to justify writing you out of the will.

So, I'd go hire a probate lawyer. I'm so sorry this is happening, and so sorry for your loss. You say you already have a lawyer but is that your personal lawyer or one hired for the estate? You'll need a separate lawyer if your sisters are trying to challenge your right to your inheritance since the estate lawyer cannot represent both you and them at the same time (it'd create a conflict), which means more wasted money. My concern is lawyers. They will bill for every single minute, so do not call and chat (ever!), just be all business. I spent an hour talking to a lawyer I'd hired about his website and he ended up charging for that hour.

That lawyer would charge if I sent an email (charge to review it), so don't send emails that say nothing more than "okay" or "will do that now" or any other short reply. Just do not reply unless you must add more information. Be careful about billable hours (which are all hours, and they do not need to work an hour to bill an hour - most bill in 15 min increments, so one minute is 15 -- 16 minutes is 30 - just how it works. Keep that in mind just to try to keep costs down.

I used to work as a paralegal and worked in probate

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Death of a parent often brings out the worst in their progeny. stopbush Apr 2019 #1
My condolences. Let the lawyer handle the probate. I expect your sisters will rzemanfl Apr 2019 #2
Oh samansara, so sorry for your loss. What a great life he had. NT enough Apr 2019 #3
thank you all for your condolences. I wasn't able to get back to post my thank yous... samnsara May 2019 #19
I am so sorry for your loss! Siwsan Apr 2019 #4
My dad died out of the blue 4 weeks ago today. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #5
My condolences on your loss. No words are ever adequate but, FWIW, I am sure a lot of us here alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #9
Thank you. Everyone who has responded has been very kind. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #11
Been there. It really helps to have someone nearby to hold your hand and sit with you. No words are alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #13
Don't be fooled... BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #15
I think I have an idea about Cancers as I am married to one. Anyway, I hope you find a measure of alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #16
Im so sorry! At least I was able to say good bye to my dad :( samnsara May 2019 #20
Thank you. BigmanPigman May 2019 #24
I'm so sorry about your dad Ohiogal Apr 2019 #6
So sorry for you, Samnsara, and Bigman Bayard Apr 2019 #7
My heart goes out to you samnsara. I had a similar antagonistic situation when my mother died. alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #8
Best of luck Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #10
I wish we knew you could do that ... Blue_playwright May 2019 #39
Terribly sorry to hear that things turned out as they did for your husband's family Sherman A1 May 2019 #40
Mom passed last month, Dad two years ago Dr Vegas Apr 2019 #12
was it even legal for your relatives to go in and take stuff? samnsara May 2019 #21
So sorry to hear that. 2naSalit Apr 2019 #14
If accounts were closed where did the money go? lettucebe Apr 2019 #17
my lawyer has it in probate now...we had him on a retainer for other business we did with him.. samnsara May 2019 #22
Condolences samsara. Sounds like you need that lawyer. Cleaned out the accounts? Terrible lunasun Apr 2019 #18
thank you samnsara May 2019 #23
My condolences MissMillie May 2019 #25
Forever in your heart, samnsara.....nt Heartstrings May 2019 #26
This message was self-deleted by its author sfwriter May 2019 #27
Very sad to hear of your loss PJMcK May 2019 #28
Let your dad's love sustain you through a most difficult time..you have friends at DU who asiliveandbreathe May 2019 #29
Get advice from responsible eldercare law firm. delisen May 2019 #30
My condolences for your your loss. awesomerwb1 May 2019 #31
They literally waited until the eleventh hour? Very sad for your Dad and you. IADEMO2004 May 2019 #32
Kids fight like vultures when parents pass at140 May 2019 #33
Sorry for your loss TEB May 2019 #34
If he died that close to the guardianship order and they did what you say you might be able in2herbs May 2019 #35
Sorry about your loss KT2000 May 2019 #36
I am so sorry. dewsgirl May 2019 #37
I am sorry to read your story samnsara. madaboutharry May 2019 #38
They can't change his Will, you're safe on that front, anyway. JudyM Jun 2019 #41
Strength to you... I'm very sorry this is happening. NurseJackie Aug 2019 #42
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