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SWBTATTReg

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96. Well written, CAB67. It's a shame that we all seem to have relatives in the woodwork that seem to be of this nature,

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Tue Jul 1, 2025, 05:35 PM

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they get through life somehow w/o the hard trials of going to school, graduating, and then working day in, day out for decades to keep the heads of us and our loved ones in our immediate families above water, provide shelter, pay the bills, in short maintaining the discipline that we've all learned in life to take care of life's bills, and other 'gotchas'.

I've always grown-up w/ a saying, that in order for one to help others, one must make sure that they themselves are first fixed/in good shape, before helping others.

We all know this, that sometimes, helping people w/ money or funds doesn't help them, as they drink it away, do other stupid things w/ it instead of doing good for themselves. Sad, but true, and it pushes out the date that they will have to absolutely face when it all comes to an end, and finally make the serious, heavy-duty decisions that life calls for, e.g., work steady, save, don't waste money, etc.

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an email I just sent to a MAGA cousin of mine. [View all] cab67 Jun 30 OP

Wow, I would steal that if I could. Except none of my relatives (that I know of) voted for Trump. Dan Jun 30 #1

On point. sheshe2 Jun 30 #2

K&R...let us know if you hear back. nt. druidity33 Jun 30 #3

just one correction Skittles Jun 30 #4

While that is true, soldierant Jun 30 #14

Including hundreds of thousands of deaths Ilsa Jun 30 #19

right Skittles Jun 30 #23

just two more corrections JayW Jul 1 #90

ding. x 1000 AllaN01Bear Jun 30 #5

You exactly hit all the pertinent points DeeDeeNY Jun 30 #6

Amen amen! This is the kindest smackdown I've read. When one makes a ancianita Jun 30 #7

My late father would say... llmart Jul 1 #65

Agree DENVERPOPS Jul 1 #92

+++. I might have changed "Oh - and did you ever get your kid immunized?" to "neutered". erronis Jun 30 #8

Post removed Post removed Jun 30 #9

That was a great reply. FoxNewsSucks Jun 30 #15

It allows no path to reconciliation. GladysKravitz Jun 30 #21

with all due respect Skittles Jun 30 #24

You must have wonderful family BBQs. GladysKravitz Jun 30 #25

my family CARES about people other than themselves Skittles Jun 30 #26

They certainly wouldn't admit it if you're making the potato salad! GladysKravitz Jun 30 #27

*yawn* Skittles Jun 30 #29

All I said was the poster should try to leave an opening for reconciliation with family members. GladysKravitz Jun 30 #30

"Poor decisions run in the family." dpibel Jul 1 #40

But that's the point not fooled Jul 1 #41

Im lucky in that we're all slightlv Jul 1 #45

I left out additional context to focus on an issue of broader interest to DU. cab67 Jul 1 #69

This message was self-deleted by its author Attilatheblond Jul 1 #77

Sounds like the poster's patience and generosity blubunyip Jul 1 #87

Path to reconciliation??? FoxNewsSucks Jun 30 #36

Your family wants your destruction? GladysKravitz Jun 30 #37

My maga brother posts all over FB that he hopes all liberals' children die. still-prayin4rain Jul 1 #47

Wowzer. Abolishinist Jul 1 #48

No, dad has passed away. still-prayin4rain Jul 1 #97

I don't know about their family, but yes... Pacifist Patriot Jul 1 #59

A word to the wise UniqueUserName Jul 1 #63

I thought the letter was spot-on. Prof. Toru Tanaka Jul 1 #62

This message was self-deleted by its author GladysKravitz Jun 30 #20

Good for You! DET Jun 30 #10

Hope your cousin reflects on what you said Figarosmom Jun 30 #11

You just made my day. LilElf70 Jun 30 #12

No need to get nasty, surely? Aussie105 Jun 30 #13

I didn't think it harsh at all. FoxNewsSucks Jun 30 #16

'Needs to be told' falls on deaf ears. Aussie105 Jun 30 #18

No, they never learn. They'll double down instead. Meadowoak Jun 30 #31

well they won't WORK IT OUT FOR THEMSELVES if you keep bailing them out Skittles Jun 30 #32

Really?????? FoxNewsSucks Jun 30 #33

hard to feel sorry for people who wished misfortune on others Skittles Jun 30 #28

Nope. not fooled Jul 1 #42

Stony silence doesn't really work with this particular cousin cab67 Jul 1 #71

I would never turn my back on family, ever. purple_haze Jun 30 #17

I've turned my back on tRumpster family, forever. I may be forced to live in a shithole fascist country but luckily I ImNotGod Jun 30 #22

Same here. FoxNewsSucks Jun 30 #35

I wouldn't either, but voting Trump is just a deal breaker Meadowoak Jun 30 #38

It's a difficult choice. But these are not normal times. Joinfortmill Jul 1 #58

You're lucky to live in a family where that's a reasonable expectation . cab67 Jul 1 #86

Righteous K & R Emile Jun 30 #34

I might have added FuzzyRabbit Jun 30 #39

FAFO flags for anyone to copy. usonian Jul 1 #43

F.A.F.O. K & R Dem4life1970 Jul 1 #44

So well written, almost makes me wish I had a MAGAt family member Abolishinist Jul 1 #46

That just sounds mean Grumpy Old Woman Jul 1 #49

Agreed. And then to post it on a public forum? Really? Is this something to boast about? Doodley Jul 1 #52

It gives other people courage to shed those toxic family members. GoneOffShore Jul 1 #53

THIS! times 1000 Attilatheblond Jul 1 #79

I'm not boasting. cab67 Jul 1 #73

LOL Skittles Jul 1 #54

Respectfully disagree.. Joinfortmill Jul 1 #57

I've helped her financially many times in the past. cab67 Jul 1 #67

I don't think it is mean PatSeg Jul 1 #76

I read the original post and nowhere did he indicate that he hated that person.... Dan Jul 1 #98

I remember when the #1 tune in the Republican Hymnal was: BurnDoubt Jul 1 #50

Nasty. Doodley Jul 1 #51

yes, VERY nasty voting for Donald Fucking Trump Skittles Jul 1 #55

Wow. Needed to be said. Joinfortmill Jul 1 #56

Outstanding. Should be used as a template by the rest of us in dealing with MAGA relations. Paladin Jul 1 #60

Very eloquent. mdbl Jul 1 #61

Reading stuff like this Littlered Jul 1 #64

Please note - cab67 Jul 1 #68

I can totally relate to that. Littlered Jul 1 #85

The MAGAts in my life are rude and obnoxious in their support of Traitor Arazi Jul 1 #72

OP was not just addressing 'voting preference' but a life of mooching but never changing behavior Attilatheblond Jul 1 #81

We all need to fight what is going on in whatever way we can. BoomaofBandM Jul 1 #66

Correct. ancianita Jul 1 #84

Well written but..... LPBBEAR Jul 1 #70

At this point, communicating with these folks is probably useless dedl67 Jul 1 #74

I'm ready to send something like this tonekat Jul 1 #75

Adult child of an alcoholic here and I have long thought the entire nation needs to attend CODA meetings Attilatheblond Jul 1 #78

Perfect letter to a MAGA with their hand out. Martin68 Jul 1 #80

Sounds good and on point, to me. Jay25 Jul 1 #82

Thank you for replying to her like this.... OhioBack2Blue Jul 1 #83

I don't blame you at all. Please let us know if she responds. LauraInLA Jul 1 #88

Hopefully, the rest of the family will stollen Jul 1 #89

"you knew this would happen, but assumed the rest of us would cover your losses" Grokenstein Jul 1 #91

the sheer audacity Skittles Jul 1 #93

Brilliant. PittBlue Jul 1 #94

You owe her nothing XanaDUer2 Jul 1 #95

Well written, CAB67. It's a shame that we all seem to have relatives in the woodwork that seem to be of this nature, SWBTATTReg Jul 1 #96

I feel ya. My MAGAt relatives are actually Dark n Stormy Knight Jul 1 #99