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LoisB

(10,977 posts)

4. You are NOT a failure. You are a beautiful, loving, unselfish person. It is not your responsibilty

Reply to OldBaldy1701E (Original post)

Sun Jun 29, 2025, 01:49 PM

Jun 29

to right the world. Everyone has setbacks, you just learn from them and continue to be you. "In sickness and in health"...does not just apply to the woman.

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To my husband. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jun 29 OP

*Nobody* is a failure, except maybe for Trump. Ocelot II Jun 29 #1

But, when stuff happens disproportionately... OldBaldy1701E Monday #10

If there is a failure it's that of our society, not you, Ocelot II Monday #18

I will not disagree with you on any of that. OldBaldy1701E Monday #22

Whoever "they" are, screw 'em. Only bad, stupid people blame victims. Ocelot II Monday #23

Then, there are WAY more bad, stupid people in the world than one might think. OldBaldy1701E Tuesday #24

Dear Heart WhiteTara Jun 29 #2

We did not make such vows, but we pretty much said it in our exchanges. OldBaldy1701E Monday #11

Sounds like a conversation is in order. WhiteTara Monday #16

You are valued. Nanuke Jun 29 #3

I doubt I am giving him any joy or comfort. OldBaldy1701E Monday #12

you are giving him purple_haze Tuesday #28

You are NOT a failure. You are a beautiful, loving, unselfish person. It is not your responsibilty LoisB Jun 29 #4

Well, we are a gay couple. OldBaldy1701E Monday #13

As a performer, you brought pleasure and enjoyment to your audiences. Ocelot II Monday #19

Gay couple, straight couple - no difference to me. A couple is a couple. I hope something LoisB Monday #20

I figured that, but when you said "..it doesn't apply just to the woman.", I felt I should respond. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Tuesday #25

I apologize. I should have said "does not apply to only one spouse". I really just want you to LoisB Tuesday #30

First, I hope that your husband didn't give you the impression that he felt that way about you. 1WorldHope Jun 29 #5

He did not. OldBaldy1701E Monday #14

Oh, no. murielm99 Jun 29 #6

Thanks. The people here seem to be the only ones who think so. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Monday #17

I don't think your husband is a nice person for making you feel like this. Duppers Jun 29 #7

He is not to blame for any of this. OldBaldy1701E Monday #9

I'm sorry life has treated you like it has. crosinski Jun 29 #8

Thank you. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Monday #15

Oh man mdmc Monday #21

I don't know how old you are or where you are but Tadpole Raisin Tuesday #26

Thank you for your suggestions. OldBaldy1701E Tuesday #27

Once to are over 60 for snap the numbers may change. Tadpole Raisin Tuesday #29

There is only life. And it can throw awful stuff at you. applegrove Tuesday #31