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Mental Health Support

OldBaldy1701E

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12. I doubt I am giving him any joy or comfort.

Reply to Nanuke (Reply #3)

Mon Jun 30, 2025, 08:17 AM

Jun 30

I just sit here and wish I were dead. I want to get out of this loop, but since there is all but no help for poor people with mental issues (other than 'showpiece' programs that toss meds left and right with abandon, but don't actually 'help' you with anything. 'Just keep them working' is their mantra), I don't know what to do.

I do know I cannot keep on going like this. I tried to at least clean the bathroom yesterday. I managed to (sort of) clean the shower, and by then I was done.

If this is all I can manage from now on, we are in even bigger trouble than we already are. And, we are dangling by a threat as it is.

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To my husband. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jun 29 OP

*Nobody* is a failure, except maybe for Trump. Ocelot II Jun 29 #1

But, when stuff happens disproportionately... OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #10

If there is a failure it's that of our society, not you, Ocelot II Jun 30 #18

I will not disagree with you on any of that. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #22

Whoever "they" are, screw 'em. Only bad, stupid people blame victims. Ocelot II Jun 30 #23

Then, there are WAY more bad, stupid people in the world than one might think. OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #24

Dear Heart WhiteTara Jun 29 #2

We did not make such vows, but we pretty much said it in our exchanges. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #11

Sounds like a conversation is in order. WhiteTara Jun 30 #16

You are valued. Nanuke Jun 29 #3

I doubt I am giving him any joy or comfort. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #12

you are giving him purple_haze Jul 1 #28

You are NOT a failure. You are a beautiful, loving, unselfish person. It is not your responsibilty LoisB Jun 29 #4

Well, we are a gay couple. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #13

As a performer, you brought pleasure and enjoyment to your audiences. Ocelot II Jun 30 #19

Gay couple, straight couple - no difference to me. A couple is a couple. I hope something LoisB Jun 30 #20

I figured that, but when you said "..it doesn't apply just to the woman.", I felt I should respond. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #25

I apologize. I should have said "does not apply to only one spouse". I really just want you to LoisB Jul 1 #30

First, I hope that your husband didn't give you the impression that he felt that way about you. 1WorldHope Jun 29 #5

He did not. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #14

Oh, no. murielm99 Jun 29 #6

Thanks. The people here seem to be the only ones who think so. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #17

I don't think your husband is a nice person for making you feel like this. Duppers Jun 29 #7

He is not to blame for any of this. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #9

I'm sorry life has treated you like it has. crosinski Jun 29 #8

Thank you. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #15

Oh man mdmc Jun 30 #21

I don't know how old you are or where you are but Tadpole Raisin Jul 1 #26

Thank you for your suggestions. OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #27

Once to are over 60 for snap the numbers may change. Tadpole Raisin Jul 1 #29

There is only life. And it can throw awful stuff at you. applegrove Jul 1 #31