Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

Mental Health Support

In reply to the discussion: To my husband. [View all]

OldBaldy1701E

(8,391 posts)
27. Thank you for your suggestions.
Tue Jul 1, 2025, 08:42 AM
Jul 1

I am 61. I am disabled. The Social Security Administration did their tests and agree that I am disabled.

BUT

We make $300 or so over the minimum. So, we get a big ole FU from Uncle Sam. (Those programs won't be around much longer anyway.)

We did SNAP until we were removed some years ago. They are still saying that we have used up our time for receiving it. It seems there is a three year limit on the program. At least it was for us. So, no SNAP, I guess. (This will also be gone before too long.)

I have tried to speak to a few of these 'senior advocate' agencies as well as other agencies who mention help for seniors. They never seem to offer the help I need to navigate the insane bureaucracy of trying to get governmental aid. They offer plenty of services, but they are for people who need someone to help with care. I am not there. Yet.

There are no assets to worry about. I own nothing that has any value to this society. If one were to liquidate my entire estate, one might end up with $400. My 'assets' are my work and my song catalog. No one wants anything to do with any of it. So, I have no value. At all. My only value to this society is as a warm body to put in some position that will make someone else richer while I hasten my demise from working more than my body will allow. My experience, my knowledge, my abilities... no one cares because they are not considered 'profitable' unless they are turned to being used, firstly, for profit. I don't care about any of that. AT all. Which is why I am shunned by our society because I am not 'hungry' enough for their taste.

The desire to allow people like me to die slowly from things that might have been 'fixable' even as others wallow in decadence and greed while making sure that bureaucracy keeps people like me away from any help, yet punishing anyone who tries to remove themselves from such a failed situation, is one that I cannot understand at all.

But, it is there. I experience it every single day.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

To my husband. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Jun 29 OP
*Nobody* is a failure, except maybe for Trump. Ocelot II Jun 29 #1
But, when stuff happens disproportionately... OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #10
If there is a failure it's that of our society, not you, Ocelot II Jun 30 #18
I will not disagree with you on any of that. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #22
Whoever "they" are, screw 'em. Only bad, stupid people blame victims. Ocelot II Jun 30 #23
Then, there are WAY more bad, stupid people in the world than one might think. OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #24
Dear Heart WhiteTara Jun 29 #2
We did not make such vows, but we pretty much said it in our exchanges. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #11
Sounds like a conversation is in order. WhiteTara Jun 30 #16
You are valued. Nanuke Jun 29 #3
I doubt I am giving him any joy or comfort. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #12
you are giving him purple_haze Jul 1 #28
You are NOT a failure. You are a beautiful, loving, unselfish person. It is not your responsibilty LoisB Jun 29 #4
Well, we are a gay couple. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #13
As a performer, you brought pleasure and enjoyment to your audiences. Ocelot II Jun 30 #19
Gay couple, straight couple - no difference to me. A couple is a couple. I hope something LoisB Jun 30 #20
I figured that, but when you said "..it doesn't apply just to the woman.", I felt I should respond. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #25
I apologize. I should have said "does not apply to only one spouse". I really just want you to LoisB Jul 1 #30
First, I hope that your husband didn't give you the impression that he felt that way about you. 1WorldHope Jun 29 #5
He did not. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #14
Oh, no. murielm99 Jun 29 #6
Thanks. The people here seem to be the only ones who think so. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #17
I don't think your husband is a nice person for making you feel like this. Duppers Jun 29 #7
He is not to blame for any of this. OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #9
I'm sorry life has treated you like it has. crosinski Jun 29 #8
Thank you. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jun 30 #15
Oh man mdmc Jun 30 #21
I don't know how old you are or where you are but Tadpole Raisin Jul 1 #26
Thank you for your suggestions. OldBaldy1701E Jul 1 #27
Once to are over 60 for snap the numbers may change. Tadpole Raisin Jul 1 #29
There is only life. And it can throw awful stuff at you. applegrove Jul 1 #31
Latest Discussions»Support Forums»Mental Health Support»To my husband.»Reply #27